I met a guy a few weeks ago and he is great. As with everyone I've ever gone out with there is drama and my family will never approve...1. he smokes (that won't go over well with my ex-smoker parents). 2. he has a child. 3. he used to have a major drug problem and is now in counseling. he's been clean for almost 2 years. 4. he spent 4 months in jail. I know, walk away, right? That's exactly what my head keeps saying. But, I just have this feeling about him...and everyone deserves a chance right?
2007-03-07 09:50:22 · 13 answers · asked by divarhd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your family care about, and they just want the perfect guy for you.What's true is that guys come and go, your family stay.
Having feelings could be tricky.
2007-03-07 09:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Peruv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to read the book, "10 stupid things Women do to Mess up their Lives" by Dr. Laura. I'm not saying you are being stupid, but she has some really good practical advice about life, and love and decision making. Saying that you just have this feeling is about the least practical reason I could ever come up with for making a decision. It's very close up there to "but I love him" when women give reasons why they stay with a cheater, abuser, a total jerk. Just because you have a feeling doesn't mean you have to act on it, and just because you chose to walk away, doesn't make you a bad person. We can't all go out there and save the world. Please, read the book.
2007-03-07 09:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he sounds like he mest up bad in his life, but since he is taking counceling, he does sound like the kind of guy that wants to change, so unless he went to jail for doing something really bad, I wouldnt see too much of a problem
2007-03-07 09:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there's really no need to hold out for better, right? I mean, if that's the level you feel comfortable operating on, then there's someone for everyone, right? That's what makes the world go round, settling.
2007-03-07 09:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think if u really have feelings for him so what that he smokes u dont right? and he has a kid u will learn to love the kid and hes been in jail if its not for murder or beating up an old girlfriend then who cares??? i do care a lot abou what my family thinks about my bfs but trust me they will learn to deal with it if he treats u good thats the main thing HE TREATS U RIGHT so i say go for it!!!!! good luck
2007-03-07 09:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend used to be a drug addict, been in jail once (only for a week)...and he is the best man alive. he has been clean for 4 years now, stay outs of trouble, goes to college, has a nice decent job to pay for college, family oriented, and treats me like a princess. just tell him to prove to your family that he has changed and he will take care of you.
and the kid part, they...and you... will just have to accept it. you can't help who you love..and if your family doesnt approve then they don't love you.
2007-03-07 09:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he do time for? How long ago was it? Is he still involved in that kind of activity? Important questions. He deserves a chance if he has shown that he has changed.
2007-03-07 09:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you know is right, or risk getting very hurt. yes people change and maybe he really did but stay friends for a while and that's the best way to stay safe and not give up, leave it open
2007-03-07 09:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people can change...id follow ur heart on this one and forget about what everyone else thinks. if its not meant to be then it wont happen...if it is..then its great. the only thing that really matters is what you think and how you feel. good luck.
2007-03-07 09:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by Scotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know. how many mistakes has everyone made in their lives and moved past those mistakes to lead some sort of life that society at large would approve of? if you have faith in him.
good for you to rise above it all. peace
2007-03-07 09:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋