Im 14 had sex and got busted... i just want some advice not really a question?

Question

I dont want harsh comments or anything i just want to hear what u think (not negatively) Im a smart person A honor roll, junior honors society, ect. but i do have a social life! I started "going with" this guy about 2 weeks ago. I'd known him 4 like three years and i really liked him. Well, Sunday we went 2 church together and spent the day together and one thing led to another. We had sex but i guess u could say we weren't 2 careful about the placing. Somebody saw us and told my big brother and my big brother told my mother and now im in trouble. I dont really regret it but i know it was a really bad choice on my part. Yes it was my first time. And no no protection. Should i really have done that?

Answer 1

You have already done it so asking if you really should have done it is silly. You had unprotected sex with someone and now you will have to suffer it out to see if your next period comes or if you just became pregnant not to mention all the other issues that go with having unprotected sex. You are only 14 years old do you really want to become a statistic? You need to find someone to talk with you are to young for this kind of worry. Cherish yourself

Answer 2

What if you are pregnant? Guess what, you haven't even graduated. Another thing, you don't even have a license to drive. Do you work? Not to mention you had sex after church. What was the reason for you going to church? Does your church even teach you about fornication and adultery? Your brother told because he was concerned. I don't blame him. I don't want to end up being your family when they find out you are 14 and pregnant or possibly have a sexually transmitted disease. God forbid. From what happened seems like you were not responsible enough. Made an unwise decision. Regardless of the good background with the honor roll and stuff your choices will affect others. 2 weeks is not long enough of a wait to have any type of sex. Did you ever ask the guy had he ever had sex before? Just imagine if he just used you for the sex. You would be hurt. These are some of the reasons why your parents and brother would act like you made a bad choice in your actions. Learn from your mistakes and go on.

Answer 3

No, you should not have done that. It was definitely a bad choice. I could talk about what I think sex should be and how you shouldn't have sex until marriage and blah blah blah. That argument is irrelevant right now and I'm sure you don't want to hear that at all. It is your choice to have or not have sex, but first of all at fourteen you really shouldn't be having sex. (I was pressured into having sex when I was fifteen and it was a horrible decision and I regret it completely. There is no healthy sex when you are that young) It is illegal for you to have sex because you are not at the age of consent. (In Michigan where I live it is 16) But besides that if you choose to have sex, at whatever age, you NEED to use protection. If you are going to make the decision to have sex you need to insist that a condom be used. If you don't you will wind up pregnant or with an STD etc. What good can come from having unprotected and illegal sex and then having to hide this from certain friends and all parents and all teachers.

Answer 4

of course u know your too young. also, u had unprotected sex and this was your first time which is really bad. u say u have alot going for yourself that u are an honor student. u really shudnt have had unprotected sex because u can get pregnant and u might have put yourself at risk to an STD because u only started seeing this guy for like 2 weeks now. how cud u have gone that far with a guy? yea its good to have a social life but that does not mean sex. u really need to start planning since u cud be pregnant. and that guy i hope he wud be a good father. u really disrespect yourself by letting him have an easy way to u. if anything u shud have waited til u were older. plus u seem like u dont know alot about sex and its consequences. that goes to show that u are young in the brain and still havent matured mentally to know right from wrong.

Answer 5

alright so its hard for me to say that I wont sound negative but i will try my hardest. I am sure you are a good person, there is no doubt, the fact that you are even asking for advice shows that you care enough about the decisions you are making to ask for counsel. I really will tell ya from experience that 14 is way too young to make the decision you made. For lots of reasons...one being that because of your lack of judgement in this situation many things may come of it. Pregnancy, trust with parents, peers and they way they will talk about you, view you, and I could go on and on but instead I will focus on you. You say you have a "social life"...do you think that having a social life means having sex? I hope not, you sound so smart but I really think that you need to focus on the decisions you are making for yourself. I am a mom now but I am also 27...my husband became a father at 16 and everything he went through is beyond what I would wish upon anyone. Seriously having a baby is soooo much work, lets just say that I have no identity other than being a wife and mother. I like it now at 27 but imagine the lack of your social life at 14, ya know? Please if nothing else think of this, it only takes one time. I really hope you are not pregnant, not yet anyway....just think one day you can have fun in college, or travel to places like Europe...have a blast..have a real social life. Making friends, making fun memories that will last forever! Until then just enjoy your youth...take it from me it goes sooo fast! You really should talk with your parents, one day when you are my age you'll know that they love you, I was so lucky to have such good parents! good luck, take good care.

Answer 6

I'm sorry baby girl but it sounds like to me you need some harsh commenting or a good sound beating maybe (if you were my child). I mean what could you possibly know about sex at the age of 14? You need to get it together and stop giving your lovin away to these lil boys out here that don't care nothing about you except what you have to offer. Last but not least , even if you were old enough to give out some lovin you should know you don't give it up after two weeks and if you do he or whoever will not respect you for what your worth. I hope you get it together baby girl. Your too young.

Answer 7

Uh kinda hard to give out any advise, I have two daughters my self. I was a wild child though, hey if you are doing in school and doing what you're suppose too and this is your first mistake well learn from this experience. You are still so young, you are going to make a lot more mistakes as you get older especially in sexual experience. Just know you have to live with the consequences. Just roll with the punches if its not to serious and if it is bad then well take responsibility. Advise for the future though be a lot more care full.

Answer 8

If you dont regret it and it felt right then I think you shouldnt worry, having said that you really should have used some sort of protection but the fact is it has happened and you cant go back and change things. Try to be more careful next time and find someone you have a real connection with....liking someone isnt a real good reason to loose your virginity to them....
Good luck with everything!

Answer 9

Hey, its a good thing you are comfortable about telling people. Don't regret it because you learn from your mistakes. Your mother shouldn't be mad at you for too long its not like you were doing anything wrong if you really did have feelings for this guy. You are a little young, but I guess I shouldn't be talking hah. My sister had the same problem except it was my father walking in on her. Next time, if there is, use protection you wouldn't want to be carrying that young it really sucks. kay, thanks buh-bye

Answer 10

No, i dont think you should have. In my opinon you wasted your virginity on a guy who you probly wont marry you. How much fun is it gonna be on the wedding night when you already know how its gonna feel?
You also might be preagnant. The last thing a 14 year old girl wants; a baby. And even though you've known the guy for years, you only dated for what, two weeks? I highly doubt you loved him.