Now before you say go with the one you love more, here's the problem I love them both equally. One is in my country but the one I'm dating isn't... Here's my main problem I being asked to choice between them right now but my girlfriend isn't online and with both of them every time we talk it's obvious there's love involved... The one I'm not dating is asking me to decide now, at least think on it and tell her my choice.. I can't choice between them though.
2007-03-07 09:39:42 · 27 answers · asked by Kylan Incarna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alright you want me to tell you something? I love both of them equally, I don't know why and I can't understand it.. Also if you want to know my age it's 17, but mentally I'm not my age. I'd move anywhere to be with either of these girls, I honesty can't decide but already I'm seeing some good advice and some rather silly advice as well.
2007-03-07 09:49:11 · update #1
G! Are you in a tough spot or what? OK first do both ladies know about each other? If so, can you be open and honest with them? If not, ouch. Matters of the heart are never easy. If you believe in God, pray for His guidance. Long distance relationships are always hard. I've learned you can't help who you love. If the one lady is asking you to make a choice then please ask yourself this question...if she loved me as much as she says would she make me chose? Best of luck!
2007-03-07 09:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cmon, be honest here, if you are truly in love with both of these girls how could you make a deliberate choice to be with both of them? Maybe where you live is different then where i live, but I will not be with someone who loves someone else, how could i truly make them happy? the answer is I won't, and the relationship will crumble.. if you date 2 people then the most you can give them is 50% if you split your time, so you truly will not know which one is right for you unless you give one or the other your 100%.... so until you try that (which i'm sure you're not prepared to do) you will keep wanting your cake and eating it to...
2007-03-07 09:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by n_maritz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't love both girls equally, not if it is true love. At your age it often isn't love at all. Most likely its lust or a crush. I wouldn't recommend dating a girl from another country unless you've met her, its often not really and you know her only online. People are very different from their online personalities. You shouldn't have to choose between them either because your heart should have told you itself. Sometimes the heart can lie though that is the time to turn to your head and look at things logically.
2007-03-07 10:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you can love more than one person. Have no regrets! It's your life, be selfish. Which girl would you have a better time with? Who would you see more often? Which girl do you see yourself marrying and having children with? If your current gf doesnt live in the same country!!! then maybe you should date this other girl.
Best of Luck to you...and follow your heart - just make sure you have your eyes open and dont get lost.
2007-03-07 09:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confusing lust with love. And you are overthrowing the responsibility for your life by making yourself a slave to your own feelings (ie "I can't choose...." etc).
If you REALLY love and respect the girls involved, as well as yourself...then yes, you can and will choose. It isn't fair to ask anyone to play the third wheel in a truly loving relationship...and it isn't fair to you either.
Here's the litmus test for true love versus lust and attraction: True love puts the other person first, above itself, because true love is not self-seeking. As long as you're willing to string these girls along and take the wimpy approach of by claiming you "can't" choose, then guess what - your "love" is extremely self-serving and inconsiderate of the feelings of others, so it's either lust or ego.
Good luck to ALL of you!
2007-03-07 09:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to leave both of them alone for at least 2 days and see what happens...whichever one you think about the most is obviously the one you care about and love the most! Just take your time. Dont rush into it!
2007-03-07 09:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being single and have the best of both worlds before someone gets hurt. Good luck.
2007-03-07 09:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the love triangle.....they are very difficult, but you will eventually have to choose, and I dont really think you love them equally, just ask yourself, who you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with, imagine you life with each of them! Which one looks most promising?
2007-03-07 09:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you anyway... have you even met the girl from another country? If not, how can you say you love someone you don't really know? If you're young than I doubt you're in love at all, more like lust.
2007-03-07 09:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by happyblonde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can not be possible that you love them both equally because you are actually involved w/two girls at the same time...u don't even love the one you are with otherwise you wouldn't love the other girl who loves you....
2007-03-07 09:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Legant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋