what is wrong with spanking?

Question

i was spanked as a child, and i only behaved for the people who spanked me, the people who didnt spank me had no control over me, and now with my younger brother, we are not allowed to spank him, and its because "it teachers kids violent habits", but i have never been in a fight, now my brother is swearing in the house and not obeying the rules at all...and i dont know how to brake these habits

Answer 1

Spanking teaches children that it is okay to solve a problem with violence or to result to violence when they are angry. It does not solve problems long term- but it is a useless temporary tactic to keep children in line. Researchers say that children who are spanked, seldom grasp the real reason why they are being punished and are more apt to rebel when there parents arent looking. It also lowers self esteen and sometimes results in anger management problems.
No problem should be solved with force especially when all the other solutions havent been tried out and ESPECIALLY when the recipient of the spanking is half your size. In grammer school- they call that bullying. My mom use to beat us and spank us just to show us who was boss- to show us that she was bigger than us. I have discoved (as the majority of researchers also have) that parenting with fear does not deliver positive results. And when you spank your children- you are parenting with fear. Better results are acheived by parenting with love and understanding.

If you are given the gift of words- there is no reason to disipline with your hands

Answer 2

well I feel the same way I was spanked also and I grew up with respect. I'm not a violent person now, I know everything is illegal now so there's all these kids out of control. I have a 7 year old if she acts up she gets spanked. "Spare the rod spoil the child" is what my parents would say to me. I'm a firm believer.

I went through a parenting class though now as a adult and it was very interesting. I learned a lot, they do say to not spank because it teaches violence but at the same time there's a time for it.

My daughter now when she starts acting up and behaving badly I stop and think what going on with the surroundings,etc. Try to figure out what's going on, most the time she's board and wants attention or something to do.

Most of all I think though,( it works for me at least ) I just grab a hold of her and give her a great big hug, when her love tank is filled back up she's happy again. It might sound crazy but it really works for me.

good luck

Answer 3

My opinion is, there's not anything wrong with spanking. Now beating and abusing, that's a whole other story, but anti-spankers don't get the difference. I've witnessed the difference between myself and other kids during school.

Spanking doesn't teach kids "violent habits". I don't know where that came from. Abuse will probably teach kids violent habits, but like you, I was spanked and I never have been in a fist fight. Or even been in trouble at school (never been suspended or anything). With other kids, they don't have any kind of discipline and they were the ones who would cuss the teachers (or their parents out) for that matter. I have a friend who talks to his mom like crap, and what a coincidence, she thinks spanking is "abuse". and he even says he treats her like that because she isn't going to do anything.

There's nothing wrong with spanking. There's something wrong with beating and abuse. However, there is a a huge difference between them.

Answer 4

There is nothing at all wrong with spanking. As long as its not taken to an extreme than it is a great way to discipline children. I was spanked and you dont see me running around crazy disrespecting everyone. That freedom allows children to think they can do what they want. Its not right. I say you pop him in the mouth the next time he says some bad words and let him know thats not allowed.

Answer 5

Nothing is wrong with spanking. You are obviously proof of that. However swearing can be a precursor to violence so tell your parents, good job! The reason why it can lead to violent habits is because it is in the approach. If your kids are furious and screaming and beating you at the same time then duh children will remember that because it is considered "traumatic" . Did you parents do that to you? But if you beat them and explain to them why it happened then they will be less likely to repeat that behavior pattern.Your brother is halfway to destructive behavior. Different measures are used for different people. Some parents may not have to lay a pinky on their child others..... I love when I see 3 year old kids telling their parents shut up, and leave me alone, an no in the supermarket. I say to myself if she popped him/her in the lips I bet they won't say that again. And I didn't get beat when I was little (that's ans understatment). I GOT MY *** KICKED! And I am sooooooo sweet! Good Luck!

Answer 6

Your question is what is wrong with spanking, not what is right with spanking. Generally speaking, there are greater methods of reaching a child who needs to curb his behavior than spanking which can lead to tangent behaviors that may not be desirable as an adult. If you want to know what is right, if a child does something IMMEDIATELY dangerous, it can scare the living you know what out of him. Spanking my boys have been done when they have played with plug ins and the stove top.

Answer 7

There is absolutely nothing wrong with spanking a child. I spank my daughter when she refuses to listen and that gets her attention and she then behaves. There is a difference between spanking and abusing a child and I think many people today cannot differentiate between the two. Like the bible says, spare the rod, spoil the child.

Answer 8

Nothing IF it is not done out of anger... BUT you also have to talk.. you can not spank alone. You have to explain why he/she was spanked.. and for those who say spanking teaches violent habits is full of it!

Video games where kids blow each other's heads off, blood squirts, violence on TV is what promotes violence.. Spanking teaches a kid that there are consequences to their wrong actions!

I believe in spankings.. and my kids know it.. but very rarely do they get them.. because they are GOOD kids! BUT Beating a child out of anger is a completely different story!!!!!!

Answer 9

I know it sucks. I was not spanked, I was whoooooped! I also grew up respectful. I dont know how old your brother is, but it is up to your parents to set boundaries and not up to you. If you live with your brother, you have to live by the same example your parents are setting. I know it doesnt feel fair, but a "united front" will help your parents in breaking some of the bad habits.

Answer 10

Nothing is wrong with a spanking now and then. My husband and I were both spanked and so are our kids. That is the problem with todays youth they have NO discipline. Everyone says its child abuse and so on. If we all got a little stricter I think our children's behavior would reflect this. We've got to regain control over our youth.

Answer 11

DEAR
SIR THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT WORKS AND MAKE A BELIEVER OUT OF A CHILD ASAP SO IT IS OK TO SPANK THEN HAVE A CHILD THAT DOES NOT LISTEN TO YOU AT ALL OK
TAKE CARE