Family/Boyfriend trouble.... please HELP!?

Question

Well my boyfriend is 24 and i'm 7 years younger, it seems strange to some people but we've being going out for over 6 months. Thing is, my mother always knew he was 24 however, my dad always thought he was 22 becuase i knew he wouldn't be happy if he knew his real age, but in an argument down the phone to my boyfriend, my dad heard me mention his age; he hasn't mentioned anything to me but he has to my mother, what should i do? deny it? or tell him thr truth?

ITS NOT ILLEGAL BECAUSE I'M FROM BRITAIN!

Answer 1

Why do you have to tell him anything? You are of legal age in many states and a few months away from legal age in the rest. I don't know of any state where the legal age is higher than 18 except Alabama - 19, Mississippi - 21, Nebraska - 19 and Wyoming - 19. (In many states the age of "manumission" is 17)

You have the legal right to pack your bags and move out and there is nothing your parents can do about it once you are of legal age. Quit worrying about whether or not your parents are happy about your choices. That's allowing them to control your life which is very bad for you. Many parents are real control freaks and you have to decide that you are not going to live your life based on someone else's opinion. You have to open up your mouth and say "NO! I'm not going to do that".

It's very scary to get out on your own but it's apparent that you are thinking about it. Eventually you're going to have to take the plunge - what are you waiting for? Communicate your needs to them and if they ignore it, you have every right in the world to go out on your own and make your own decisions. You do NOT owe them anything. They were required by law to raise you in a reasonable manner when they brought you into the world so don't buy this "You're so ungrateful after all we've done for you" song and dance because it's just another way to keep you under their thumb. True loving parents do exactly as the eagles do to their young. When the fledgelings are ready, the eagles push them out of the nest and encourage them to go on their own. That's what you need from your parents.

Answer 2

That's a tough one...

Honesty is always the best policy. If mom already knew, then chances are dad knew when mom did.

You don't want to favor one parent...just sit them both down and tell them your situation.

And apologize for not mentioning it earlier in the relationship, but now that you guys are more of a couple you want them to be aware.

One of two things will happen:

1.) They'll realize how mature and serious about this guy you are and accept it.

2.) Or say as long as your under this roof you're not dating a man 7 years older than you. (when he was 17...you were 10....gross.)

peace

Answer 3

First of all, if you are 7 years younger than your b/f, that would make you 17. You are still a minor. If you are having sex, then depending on the laws of your state, he could technically be raping you. As a minor, you are still living under the roof and care of your parents. It is very disrespectful to lie to them. They provide for you and try their best to protect you. They only want what is best for you, yet you turn around and lie to them. That is such an "in yo face" diss. I think you should grow up and act your age. You have a little more time before you become a legal adult. Make your parents proud and do the right thing.

Answer 4

Lies = more lies. What happens if this relationship gets more serious, you end up getting married, or both? You're just going to have to keep covering up a lie that he already suspects isn't true. Next time your boyfriend comes up in conversation with your parents, you should mention it to him. He's already mentioned it to your mother, who seems to be okay with it and so you can rely on her for support, things should go well enough. Just make sure your mom is around to back you up in case something goes wrong....And that your dad is in a decent mood. If you haven't gotten the message already: Tell him the truth.

Answer 5

well girl if u really love ur dad and if u two r close enough u could tell him anything i think u should tell him the truth. But if u and ur father are not that close i wouldn't worry about tell him the truth. Cause i been though alot with my father which right now i don't talk to him. i can say at least ur father cares for u other then mine

laters always me

wahaylia

Answer 6

U got to tell him the truth because hes probably waiting for u to do the mature thing and tell him! Plus if u tell him the truth it will show him u are mature enough to be with a older guy. Make sure u tell him when he is in a good mood and your mom is there so she can calm him down! Do the right thing he will be proud of u! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

if your old enough to be with a grown azz man your grown enough to tell the truth about his age. I'm not going to tell you you don't need to be with that man, because when I was your age doing the same thing no one could tell me better you'll just have to learn for yourself but let me tell you this.
No matter how wounder full, and mature of a person you are, A 24 year old man has no business with a 17 year old girl. everyone tried to tell me but i would not listen and it messed me up for years, I hope that does not happen to you.

Answer 8

Don't do anything, just wait until he comes to you. You should stop lying though, it can become a dangerous habit. I used to lie a lot and decided that I would rather let people have a chance to know the real me then to cover it up and hide everything
Good Luck!

Answer 9

The truth is always best. You also need to apologize because with the lie you caused your mom to not be honest with her husband. You've made a bad choice and now you need to show your maturity in owning up to it and make it better.

Good luck!

Answer 10

The truth is always better. That way if he gets pissed off at you for your actions, he cant get pissed at you for lying too. Play it safe. Be a big girl and tell him the truth- just be prepared for his reaction... ouch.