ok so i dated this guy for like a yr and we were very very serious, talked about marriage and kids and were so serious but then we decided we were too young so decided to go on a break until i got older but then he started to ignore me and didnt even want to act like friends because he said he needed his "space" so i gave it to him and i met this really cool guy and we were just friends but yesterday he told me he likes me and i dont like him back but i think hes really sweet but im not attracted to him. now i dont know if i have an obligation to the first guy and if i should tell him ive been talking to the second guy and what he told me. and do u think i should forget about the first guy cuz i mean he ignored me for awhile but know he started calling me and says he still thinks about us and still loves me or whatever but its so complicated.so what would you do in my situation?
2007-03-07 09:09:06 · 12 answers · asked by luckyduck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
choose the 1 u love coz if u r wrong now then 10 yrs later u would be laying down with a guy which u dont like n regretting why u wasted the best 10yrs of yur lives tryin to get along n proving yur self that u made the right descion
2007-03-07 09:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole reason you two broke up in the first place is because you were to young ....right? Well, you two are more mature than you think. So go out with the second guy, a nice simple date. Keep things platonic (simple). That way you don't get attached so easily. Go out and enjoy life why you are young, the time will come when you will be ready for marriage, kids....the whole nine yards. This time of your life should be about growing up and having fun adventures.
2007-03-07 09:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would talk to the first guy and tell him how I feel. If you are worried about the second guy then I would tell h im that I just got out of a bad relationship and I still really really like the first guy and I'm waiting for him to come back so we can be together again. That's what I would do..but w/e you do you should listen to your heart and then you would know the right thing to do.
2007-03-07 09:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first, I would tell the second guy that you like him-but nothing sexual or anything. As for the first guy, you could tell him that you were talking to other guys because you did not know whether he was still serious about your relationship since he needed "space" and thought that maybe you were going to break up. That you were talking-nothing else. DO NOT tell him what the other guy said. It is none of his business. He does not need to know.
Ask him if he wants to continue with the relationship or not, because you are not going to wait.
2007-03-07 09:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break and space means the first guy broke up with you particularly if he ignores you and didnt say lets take a break but remain committed! if you dont know you have an obligation...if you dont have communication....do u figure he's thinking such things? saying he thinks he loves you and thinks about you could be your family member talking. people still care about another's well being and happiness...but unless your guy is actually involved with making a life with you ...you dont owe him a damn thing actually. peace
2007-03-07 09:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first guy definitely. You sayd you dont even like the second one. If you were so serious and all, that would be just stupid to throw it all away. Doesnt sound like you did something bad with the second guy that the first one would be angry about. Just get back in touch with the first one
PS
guy #1 and guy #2 ^^ funky
2007-03-07 09:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by remove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think tha first guy really needed his space from you so that he could get you out of his system and he wouldn't be soo vunerable about yall's situation. As for the second guy, if you don't want him get rid of him
2007-03-07 09:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason why he ignored you was because he was hurt that you two had to break it off. It was his way of dealing with his emotions for you. If he payed attention to you, he would never be able to move on. Get it?
2007-03-07 09:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would dump the first guy because if he needed his space once he more than likely will need it again sooner or later , so my advice is to say single and just date dont settle with just anyone make sure they are what you really want
2007-03-07 09:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. u need to figure out what it is that YOU want and be honest with everyone. u need to the the 2nd guy that you're not feelin him like that. period. after u figure out if u want to be married now or not u need to take that info to the first guy and see where he stands. if he doesn't want the things u want then u need to get rid of him and find someone who does want the same things as u.
2007-03-07 09:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋