say there was a gay couple who wants to adopt a four year old in foster care?

Question

If there were no other prospective adoptive parents, and the foster parents were abusive or neglectful, why do are some christians opposed to this?

I would like someone who is of this view to please explain their stance and their reasoning behind this. and if you say "cause the bible says its wrong for gays to be together" I'll just ignore you

ADDED: fireball226...are you living in some parallel universe where every child is wanted? THERE ARE THOUSANDS OF KIDS IN FOSTER CARE. you don't see people lining up to adopt the older ones. You must be blind if you think that an abusive home is much better than a two parent home filled with love. i feel sorry for your children

Answer 1

Some of the not so intelligent religious people think that it is possible to teach someone to be homosexual. IDIOTS!

Any child would be lucky to have two loving parents of any sex.

Answer 2

Not every child in foster care is available for adoption. While I do not agree that a child should be left in the hands of abusive caretakers, I also believe that every child up for adoption has a right to be adopted by a family that has a loving mother AND father. Study after study shows that children will do the best in this type of household.

Now, agreed, older children are much more difficult to place. Your question is definitely a difficult one for which I don't think there is a real good answer other than I think that a married husband and wife should be given preference over anyone else in any adoption. When a suitable husband/wife couple cannot be found, the certainly, a loving home would definitely be more desirable over an abusive home. I am not sure that I would go so far as to say that adoption was OK. But I think that I would tend towards permitting foster care in these other situations.

Answer 3

I'm Muslim but the reason so many gays have a hard time adopting children is because they try adopting from Christian run adoption agencies and most people don't think gays should have any rights let alone adopt children. They also think that if a gay couple adopts a child the child will turn gay when it is older or that it will have a sever problem growing up with having two moms or two dads.

Answer 4

She's a young person and the replace is complicated on her. till she claims which you hit and/or ignore her there is not any way foster care will take her in any case. My mom used to do foster care and those little ones actual needed a house and it wasn't used for little ones that have been in simple terms mad at their mothers and dads. tell her that that's no longer a lifelike decision and which you the two could artwork by this. She is a young person nevertheless and that's an exceedingly complicated and moody time in one's existence. doing away together with her cellular telephone is a extensive element for a young person, yet she would have the capacity to benefit to stay without it. same element with the call type clothing. i think of you could sit down and function a communication together with her relating to the financial problems because of the fact she is the right age to comprehend which you're suffering and if she knew she won't act as immature. wish this facilitates and undergo in concepts that persons say issues out of anger and she or he likely did no longer advise it whilst she stated she'd somewhat be in foster care than with you.

Answer 5

Because gay couples are apparently more likely to be bad parents.

Which is kind of a stupid argument to give a kid in foster care, who's natural, heterosexual parents were so lousy at it that they had to have their kids taken away.


I hate to ruin an ideological debate by throwing in actual facts, but here's some:

- The American Psychological Association, in a recent report reviewing the research, observed that "not a single study has found children of gay or lesbian parents to be disadvantaged in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents," and concluded that "home environments provided by gay and lesbian parents are as likely as those provided by heterosexual parents to support and enable children's psychosocial growth."
- The Child Welfare League of America, the nation's oldest children's advocacy organization, and the North American Council on Adoptable Children say that gays and lesbians seeking to adopt should be evaluated just like other adoptive applicants.

Answer 6

They say that a child "needs a mother and a father." They say the child wont get a masculine/feminine role model. I think it's really arrogant to say that one man and one woman is always the best environment for a child to be raised in. My mother is a born again Christian and she says this. Boy does it piss me off, considering she was an abusive alcoholic who divorced her husband. Who the hell is she to be talking about family values? Not to mention, pretty crappy for my "female role model", huh? There are plenty of crappy straight parents and plenty of good gay parents, and vice versa. heterosexuality is no more of a guarantee of a good home life than anything else. Given the chance, I'd have happily chosen two loving daddies over the lunatic I got.

Answer 7

They would oppose it because they believe it would distort the child's perception of what a family should be. The child would not have a role model for a father if the parents were women and the child would not have a role model for a mother if the parents were men. The child might have more problems adjusting to society, that a child adopted to heterosexual parents.

Answer 8

the children's aid society where i live always has ads in the newspaper begging gay couples to foster and adopt. if the children's aid society, which takes the most ridiculous measures to protect the kids in care in order to prevent being sued, think that its okay, then obviously no problems have ever been caused. in some places the government has to pay for kids to live in hotel rooms because there aren't enough foster homes available. its far preferable for a kid to live with a gay couple who cares about them, than to be all alone in a hotel room every night.

Answer 9

they're afraid that the child will grow up thinking that it's ok to be gay and that's against their faith.

but seriously, the child probably wont become a born again christian by growing up in a abusive or alcoholic family. the odds are against it. they might as well grow up in a loving, gay family.

i dont believe that homosexuality is right and i know i'll get slammed for saying it, but i agree with you on this one.

Answer 10

I wouldn't even give heterosexual adoptive parents a better chance than homosexual adoptive parents. Homosexuals are just as capable as heterosexuals, so I'd take it on a case-by-case basis without favoring heterosexuals over homosexuals.