He says that being in jail has him so messed up mentally that he's acting crazily. He accuses me of cheating but i give him no signs of cheating cuz i'm not. He's super controlling. He always thinks i'm up to no good. He thinks i'm gonna do him dirty. When he's mad he calls me nasty names. He wants me to get his name tattooed very big on my arm ( i already have his name on my lower back) and he says if i do this, he won't trip anymore and he'll calm down cuz then he'll know i love him and won't cheat though i am very loving and cool with him and he should already know i love him. I visit him five days a week, write him all the time, take all his calls and put money on his books. I fell i am an affectionate, cool, good girlfriend. He says he wants to marry me. Each time he gets crazy with me tho, he just says "sorry" and says he doesn't mean what he says. But it still hurts.
2007-03-07 08:52:00 · 6 answers · asked by SUGAR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope you don't get the tattoo--that's pretty extreme. Otherwise, I'm sure that his mind has been altered by the experience. Your only option is to tell him that you will no longer visit him if he doesn't learn how to be more kind. Tell him that you aren't happy with the situation either, wish you could change it, and it's not meeting your needs either. I don't think I could stick around...but you never know what you'd do for someone you truly love. good luck
2007-03-07 08:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you can't continue with this relationship any longer and move on. Break off any and all contact with him forever, for your own piece of mind and possibly safety too. And the tattoo thing? Bad idea, you will come to regret it one day down the road for sure, but he sounds very controlling and quite possibly abusive, you NEED to get away as quickly as you can and never go back. By the sounds of it already this relationship is destined to fail, better now than before kids are a part of the equation.
2007-03-07 09:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by mcbobly2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i do no longer likely be attentive to the way somebody could be controlling from reformatory. i think of its extra probably which you provide in and do what he says, even whilst he would not beleive you. Honey pay attention, people do no longer replace. If he's jealous, irrational, and advise to you presently, he would be whilst he gets out. reformatory did no longer make him that way. He *IS* that way. My advice: injury up with him now. provide him time to recover from it till now he gets out so he would not develop right into a freaky stalker. And if at any time you experience threatened by skill of him, have confidence YOUR INSTINCTS and make contact with a safeguard or the police. do no longer enable your self develop into yet another statistic. You sound like a sensible lady. do no longer fall into the "yet i admire him, so if he's a jerk its ok" seize. you're extra perfect than that.
2016-11-23 13:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest the guys in prison things will be playing on his mind guilt jealousy but the only thing is dump him and you might have a whole more to deal with when he gets out i feel sorry for you and you shouldnt have to go through mind games for him being in there hope everything goes well for you
2007-03-07 09:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by darlolad2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him... he'll only bring u down in life.... u'll end up with 5 kids on ur own and on welfare... and what were u thinking tattooing his name anywhere on u body???
that's on u for life and one day u'll regret it.
God Help u
2007-03-07 08:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by laydenirvine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words - DUMP HIM!
2007-03-07 08:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋