she thinks that after 8 week you cannot get an abortion, i know that she cannot take pills, but i dont know about surgery, till what time she can go for surgery to abort the child, is it risky or safe, how much time and money it costs...
2007-03-07 08:51:51 · 39 answers · asked by dass d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's great that you're looking for information to help your g/f, but with something like this, you'd probably be better off asking a doctor. You'd get more reliable info and a acurate price.
Don't let people pressure you or her into something you don't want to do. Having a baby IS a life changing event, no matter how you look at it. Ultimitly it's her choice, and whatever she decides to do you need to stand by and support her.
2007-03-07 08:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Luviticus 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I believe the laws on how late one can have an abortion varies state by state and though the procedure continues to be legal in some states it can be quite difficult to find a facility that will perform the operation. Also her age could depend up on the time it will take. For minors, some states require parental notification and if that is not possible the girl has to go to court and have a judge approve the procedure.
This is an operation and any operation carries physical risks. There can also be emotional/mental risks that could follow her the rest of her life. You in fact could experience an emotional impact if she does have an abortion, it is your baby also.
This decision should be made very carefully but the clock is ticking. Unless her life is in danger I dont think any state permits abortions into the third trimester, so you have about 4 weeks assuming she has had her conception date determined by a medical professional.
Finally, if you are ready for children why are you having unprotected sex? It is totally irresponsible and dont give us the typicay response, "it just happened" this childish and sex is not for kids. Things cant just happen when lives are on the line. When you seek counseling, please get counseling on how to prevent a baby.
Good luck.
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2007-03-07 09:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well my first question is have you really thought this through? Are you sure that this is what you both want? She can recieve the pill up until 9-10wks which usually cost between 300-500$. She canhave an abortion now the price usually is less the less further along you are. All abortions can be risky she can develop an infection and there always will be chance she can become sterile. You will be there for at least 2hrs. BUT I WOULD ADVISE YOU TO RETHINK THIS AND MAYBE PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION. In all states the time in weeks you can have an abortion is different.
2007-03-07 08:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no "right time" for killing your own son or daughter. At 8 weeks, your baby has a beating heart, recordable brain waves, and tiny fingers and toes. If his cheek is stroked, he will turn his head. If his palm is pricked, he will open his mouth and pull his hand away. He is fully-formed, and all his organs are functioning. He can even suck his thumb. You can see photos of what your child looks like right now here:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
And see photos and videos of aborted babies at 8 weeks here:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
Yes, abortion is very dangerous for your girlfriend. The abortionist must first force open her cervix, which is very tightly closed to protect the baby. This can result in tearing and permanent damage. He then inserts a sharp-tipped suction tube into the womb and turns on suction 30 times more powerful than a vacuum cleaner. The suction tears the baby apart and pulls him out of the womb. He then inserts a curette (a loop-shaped steel knife) into the womb to scrape out any remaining parts of the baby and the placenta. Some abortionists use only the curette to cut apart the baby rather than using suction. Abortion is a "blind procedure." The abortionist cannot see what he is doing after he inserts the sharp instruments into the womb, but must go by "feel." As a result, he can puncture the uterus, bowel, or bladder. Here is more information on abortion risks and deaths:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
You can read stories from women who have aborted here:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
You and your girlfriend can receive free, confidential help at a crisis pregnancy center. They can give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one in your area by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Your baby is depending on you both for protection. Please keep your baby and your girlfriend safe.
2007-03-08 00:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
these are questions that you need to ask a professional
call 1-800-230-PLAN. they'll provide you with the location and phone number of the closet planned parenthood in your hometown. call them as early as possible, and ask to speak with a counselor. if none are available, let the receptionist know that it's vital you get an appointment soon, as you're considering an early abortion and your girlfriend is 8 weeks. it's all confidential, so they'll probably provide you with some quick information and then schedule you appropiatley.
on the day of the appointment, before you meet with the doctor, you'll meet with a counselor. They'll answer your questions, discuss all of your options, and provide you with all sorts of information that can help you make the decision that's right for the both of you.
I'm not quite sure how they set it all up but I'm fairly sure you can meet the doctor beforehand and get all your questions answered before you decide on anything.
FYI. Planned Parenthood offers "high-quality sexual and reproductive health care, including family planning, gynecological care, STI/STD testing and treatment, pregnancy testing." Most of of women who visit the clinic go in for birth control or their yearly paps, so you don't need to wear a disguise there. No one outside has any idea if your girlfriend is being treated for a yeast infection or if she's having a tampon pulled.
Good luck.
2007-03-07 09:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's never a "right" time to have an abourtion, and it shouln't be taken lightly, but anyways, U can have one up to 24 weeks, but it gets more expensive and more complicated the longer u wait.
Depending where u are, fees will range but what I got is:
To 11 weeks
$295
12-13 weeks
$375
14-15 weeks
$475
16 weeks and beyond
Call for fees
Rhogam injection
$100 – 150
Post abortion exam
$10
2007-03-07 08:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by The QUEEN of EVERYTHING! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The price for abortion depends on stage of pregnancy, where you live, whether or not insurance covers it, if your insurance covers all or part, if your state has state Medicaid for low-income people, etc. First trimester abortions cost about $300 - $600. Second trimester, $500 - $5000.
Confidentiality is generally guaranteed only IF you pay cash. If you pay using insurance or DSHS Medicaid Identification Cards, then confidentiality cannot be guaranteed because the billing records must be shared outside the clinic.
Some states have laws requiring notice to parents or parent's permission
The Information Women Are Denied:
"An abortion kills the life of a baby after it has begun. It is dangerous to your life and health." -Planned Parenthood 'Plan Your Children' pamphlet, 1963.
"I surveyed 486 colleages: 87% had hospitalized women with complications with legal abortion, 91% had treated patients with complications from legal abortions, and 24 doctors reported patients dying from legally induced abortions." - anonymous obstetrician
"the occurrance of either induced or spontaneous abortions independently and significantly increased the risk of subsequent development of secondary infertility." - Study of 252 women at Harvard from the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health. Feb 1993 issue.
"Uterine bleeding occurred on the second or third day after RU486 intake in 1256 women (88.8 percent), and lasted 11.7 +/- 6.4 (SD) days, range 2-55 days. One subject had blood transfusions due to excessive bleeding." -Shangchun, W., et al., Contraception.
"Prolonged bleeding/spotting lasting more than two weeks had been found in more than 20 percent of women who had complete abortion in this study [of RU486]." --Shangchun, W., et al., Contraception.
condisder reading this article as well..
http://www.cirtl.org/syndrome.htm
i would say if the baby is not wanted do adoption..then someone who is unable to have a child will be able to adopt it..and then in the long run (if you did ever change your mind- you would be able to see that life that was created and not destroyed...)
Adoption vs. Abortion..Similarities
You can pursue earlier goals
You can live independently
You will not have to parent prematurely
You will avoid being forced into a hasty marriage or relationship
If you are a teenager, you can resume your youthful lifestyle
Differences
Adoption-Your pregnancy ends with giving life
Abortion- Your pregnancy ends with death
Adoption -You can feel good and positive about your choice
Abortion - You may feel guilt and shame about your choice
Adoption - You will remember giving birth
abortion -You will remember taking a life
adoption -You will have plenty of time to plan you and your baby's future
abortion - Abortion is final; you can't go back on your decision
adoption - You can hold, name, and love your baby
abortion- You will never know or treasure your baby
adoption -You can have continued contact with your baby
abortion - You will miss the opportunity to see your child develop
2007-03-07 08:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If SHE really wants to get an abortion then most states do it sugically until 12 or 14 weeks. This is her decision, please let her make it. If she makes the wrong decision it could affect her forever. I am not a person who believes in abortion but I believe people have choices and this is her choice alone. Maybe she is afraid to tell you that she wants to keep the baby.
2007-03-07 08:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The two of you should head to your nearest Planned Parenthood center and get all the information you need from there. I think that technically speaking, after 8 weeks the name of the baby changes from "embryo" to "fetus." I'm sure the cut-off date varies from state to state, but you're probably right at the cusp. Best wishes- I hope the two of you make the best decision.
2007-03-07 08:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound as though you two have thought about this carefully or have gotten any information. Go to your local clinic and speak to a doctor or nurse first. I don't know what the laws are in your state but you may need parental consent -- Consider adoption -- you could make a childless person very happy!
2007-03-07 08:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋