I am a member of this church and I've been 1 for over 17 years and I 'm a missionary in this church, but I have a problem. I'm close to the pastor she's a good pastor, but I'm thinking about leaving because I don't like the way I'm treated sometimes. A lot of the members don't like me and my pastor just told me yesterday that when I get grow in God I will see things differently and then she compared another minister to me and said see how she's growing and that put the icing on the cake. I don't like being compared to other people and I'm very faithful to my pastor, but I feel like I need to move on and be around more positive people who may treat me with more respect.
2007-03-07 08:41:17 · 18 answers · asked by sweet p 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I agree with you. You have given your faith to this church, and pastor. If you feel like you are not being respected, or compaired to others. You should look around for a new church. But please do some checking on them first, go and see if you feel comfortable. Watch out for the fake ones that can be deceptive in their views.
You have a lot to offer a good church, and have the right to feel accepted for who you are.
Remember that god is in your heart, not necessarily in a building.
You can be religious or you can be a spiritual person, you have that right to choose what you want to believe in.
Try talking to your pastor and let her know how you feel, who knows this whole situation might be fixed with an honest discussion. She sounds like a positive part of your life and before you walk away from that you BOTH deserve to clear the air and make your feelings known.
Best of luck to you.
2007-03-07 08:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by ohdarnitsmeagain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, a pastor of a church isn't supposed to be a woman (1 Timothy 2:11-13)-(1 Corinthians 14:33-35) and the bible is clear on this. Secondly, if people are bad mouthing you and giving a hard time, then confront them, and if that doesn't work confront them again, and if that doesn't work then the church has to make some decisions.
2007-03-07 16:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a "come to Jesus meeting" with you, yr pastor, and some Elders of your church and just talk about somethings that have been happenning, but if you feel like your walk with God will go better in another church then maybe you could check out other churches and just get a better perspective, and just pray about it... good luck!
2007-03-07 16:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so close to home that it could bring up old pains. I was a minister in a chuch and after several years, I realized that I was becoming displeased with the ways and means of the church. I discussed this with several different church and non-church people.
I found that I had changed, or as so nicely put by a senior minister ?"You have grown beyond what your knowledge of the chuch had to offer.".
Maybe?
2007-03-07 17:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Don B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should be faithful to god, not ur pastor
ppl shouldnt be compared when working for god because it doesnt matter if the job is big or small, it matters how much heart and faith u put in it. so if u think ur pastor is treating u badly or comparing u to much to ppl, then find one that u think u can do better work for god in.
2007-03-07 16:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by hotpocket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so lets see what's more important....your faith to your God? Or to your pastor? Yeesh...that's how these scandelous teen pastors can get away with raping their charges, because people confuse loyalty to God with a building or a preacher.
If the people make you resentful, its not the right church for you.
2007-03-07 16:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by mamasquirrel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people in that church are obviously not acting much like Christ. If you are being treated that way, then I would definitely switch churches. It may be hard, understandably, but it would be better for you to get the support you need instead of the treatment you dont deserve.
2007-03-07 16:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by Scully 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into a healthy, well-balanced church where you can be fed the truth of God's Word. I'd recommend a Sovereign Grace Ministry affiliated church, personally. But, I'd definitely leave the one you're at.
2007-03-07 16:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by srprimeaux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there! What I'd recommend that you do is just ask the Lord should you leave, and ask for God to confirm it. The scriptures say "In the mouth of two or three witnesses let everything be established" and "in the multitude of counselors there's safety. I would tend to think that it's past your time to leave, but again wait for His direction. Sometimes these things are tests to bring you to God and lean on Him and other times it's not. I ask myself in certain situations: Is it time to leave or is this just something for me to work through, keep persevering and therefore remain in place? Tests come to try us, see if we will turn to God, but it can be something to force us out of the "nest" we've been in. Look to God for His input. Scripture says Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him. May God guide you in your next steps.
2007-03-07 16:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can reject a parish without rejecting the religion (unless of course we're talking about a cult). I'd say find a new church of the same sect.
2007-03-07 16:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋