2007-03-07 08:27:22 · 8 answers · asked by LOUIE 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You don't that's rude. If you can't afford to buy lunch, have it at a time when you can just serve snacks or desserts.
2007-03-07 08:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl Durham, Ph.D. 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't. people are bringing presents that they possibly spent more money on than you would on lunch. not a good idea. how about buying just some appetizers for all the guest to share. it's only lunch, this will be plenty. you can also pay for sodas and tea. ask the restaurant about free refills or pay alittle more for this. this is an invitation for your "guests". can't afford it, find a less expensive place or at yours or a friends house. this is your shower. you don't want to worry about guest having to pay their own bill at "your" shower. don't make your circumstances their problem, even if most wouldn't mind, in the end, you might. a shower doesn't have to cost a lot. have fun, make memories, enjoy. or, on the invitation you can start with, as you all know , there are no free lunches in life, well...
2007-03-07 08:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might want to re-think having it at a restaurant then. Think of it this way if you are having a party at home dont you prepare food and make sure there are drinks? Same thing goes even if it is at a restaurant. You are still the host you would normally pick up the bill.
2007-03-07 08:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be able to say it is dutch and some of them get the idea or you might have to just state BYOM (buy your own meal). I know I would rather know for sure than try and guess especially if there is someone that might not be have the cash.
2007-03-07 08:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by WRF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, you really can't do that. If you are "inviting" someone to something you can't expect them to have to pay, especially since they are already bringing a gift! If you can't afford to pay for every ones lunch, you should really have it at someones home and make the food yourself.
2007-03-07 17:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might state that "Food items are available only from the menu and are priced for the your individual pocketbook".
If they don't get this - well, a gentle word as the guest is greeted might help as well.
What about the bar? Usually it's stated "Cash bar available".
2007-03-07 08:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Don B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-07 08:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by Teia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something like.." along with your smile, bring cash because the host is a cheapass!"
2007-03-07 08:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋