Why do women not like me?

Question

I always am smiling and am nice to them, yet I find that women never want me to hang around with them. Why is this?

A group of girls at work all go to lunch, pub together and never invite me...

And I am fun to be around - I would consider myself to have a good sense of humour, laid back and just want to enjoy life.

But why do women not want me as a friend? PLease be honest.

Thanks in advance.

I am 25 and work as an administrator in a university.

Its just me they single out. I do talk to them during the day as individuals.

I don't try too hard at all - I am very laid back and easy going and have been told Im a very good listener so its not as if I try and bully my way into conversation...

And whenever I enter the coffee/staff room - its like im invisible! :/

I dont mean to sound modest..but I am told that I am pretty..and beautiful even though I see 'beautiful' in people at work

Answer 1

Macky might have been spot on, really. Or near so. A lot of women can smell a man chaser or think they can ten miles away like spoilt haddock.
Of course, maybe you are so pretty they are completely jealous. That is also a possiblity.

--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 2

Women tend to have a sixth sense about people,you might be giving off some dodgy vibes that you don't know about. Try talking to one of your colleagues-whichever is the most approachable as ask her if you have said/done something,tell her what you have told us and see what she says. Your looks are absolutely nothing to do with this,maybe that's the problem,if you are bringing up the fact that you are pretty/beautiful then you might be coming across as conceited to them,because you are to me!
P.S-as for you chasing married men,that could have something to do with it,they might have more morals than you!
P.P.S-i've just read all your previous questions that you have posted over the past few months and can clearly see why nobody likes you!! Chasing a married co-worker,despite having a boyfriend,obsessing about how pretty you are,posting numerous Q's about this guy that you seem to be obsessed with-you sound like a nasty piece of work! It's no wonder they don't like you,so i'd scrap asking them because it's clear why!!

Answer 3

You are definately not alone in this situation. You may just be that bit too much of everything for each of them individually or it could be that they have a ringleader who doesn't want to know. They probably clackity clack between themselves and one will find this wrong with you, one that and it is almost certainly based in jealousy. I take it that you have no trouble getting men to talk to you, that probably is another point against you. I am straight forward and say what I mean, plus I get more than my share of male attention, which does not go down well with other women. I won't gossip with the girls. I find it demeaning and usually end up standing up for the one they are miscalling, I hate this groupie girlie thing, it reminds me of bullies at school and yes I stood up for the underdog then and no I was never one. If you really want to get in with these girls (and I don't know why you would want to after their behaviour towards you) then find out who is the most responsive to you, get her alone and simply ask her why they never include you, have you done something to offend them. (Straight forward told you) It may simply be that none of them ever thought to invite you or they could have assumed that you would not be interested!!! If you get the brush off they are not worth bothering about and I wouldn't waste another minute worrying about them. Get on with your life outside work, you certainly have plenty going for you.

Answer 4

Well you said it, you are beautiful , maybe you are also clever & talented and / liked by most male colleagues. So present too much competition or simply show them up too much. A great number of women are shallow that way.
If it matters to you very much to be in the group, just be your usual self, polite & pleasant to them, show consideration & understanding, ask them questions & thank them for their answers, offered help where's needed & oh, check to see that you
don't show up at work very too sexy clothing with low-cut necklines!

Answer 5

THIS IS WHY:
Because you ask questions like this...
"How to seduce a married man?
I intensly desire a 40yr old man at my work. Im 25.

How do I go about seducing him? I know that he finds me very attractive by the way he looks at me.

I dont want anyone preaching saying how immoral it is. Im going to get him...somehow..Just want some tips.

Married men - How would you like to be seduced?"
I am sure the other women in your office pick up on the flirting between you and the MARRIED man...we don't usually like that too much especially from a egotistacal 25 year old who thinks they are beautiful.
Please girl, you may be attractive, but don't call yourself beautiful either if you want girlfriends. And stay away from the taken men...

Answer 6

I have a friend who has this problem, she is really beautiful and has been picked on most of her life by jealous females. She is the sweetest person i know and is totally baffled by why women behave like this to her. I think she is learning now that people like that aren't worth her time.
Keep your chin up! It will get better for you.

Answer 7

I get exactly the same thing, and I don't understand it at all. Whatever it is, it isn't very nice and I don't think we should care because they're obviously horrid. Problem is, they generally seem quite nice around other people...oh well.

Answer 8

How can you worry about that, don't sweat it, if they don't want to have lunch or whatever, hey you may save some bucks, you'll find somebody eventually whose gonna be interest in all you do or say, just take it easy.

Answer 9

jealousy is the most likely cause if u are beautiful in looks and personality this shows through and some people are petty and don't like competion. if ur clever as well this probably really ticks them off.
don't worry they are just fools who don't realise that not every1 is out to take there place

Answer 10

Most likely you're being to harsh on your self. I find I scare people when I stand really close to them and smile showing my teeth alot!!. If you do this then that may be why.