Ok, so I have a problem with my dad, well actuall mom and dad but anyways umm it's like this. Im 17 (as of today) and I have been living with my dad for 6 years now since my parents divorced, and my mom hasn't paid her child support (only $175.00 for me and 2 brothers) since May of '04. My dad has been getting me to ask her for it when that is clearly HIS responsibility. I'v been under that pressure for years. He's also very controlling and doesn't exactly "care" about ones feelings. Long story short, how do I tell him to quit putting me in the middle of HIS battles between him and my mom? It's getting serious, adn I dont know what to do, and moving isn't exactly an option......
2007-03-07 08:16:32 · 5 answers · asked by jesterkitty_4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, happy birthday. Second of all, go to your guidance counselor and tell him/her what you have told me. Tell that person that you live with a father who could not give a rat's a-ss about your feelings and always made you do his dirty work.
Do you have any family members that can take you and your brothers in? If this is a 'yes' or an 'I think' type of answer, then I would tell them what is going on and see if that relative can help you out.
Or, you can go to court and ask to speak to a judge and see what they have to say. When you tell them the situation, they may want to help you out. Because you are 17 years old, you may (not sure) be able to legally be able to leave and emancipate (free) yourself and be able to take your brothers, get assistance from the government and find a nice two bedroom place-provided the fact that you may need a part time job or some type of an income to help with other things. Then, maybe they would have to have their checks garnished to help you take care of your two siblings. This has happened before, so do not think that it has not.
I hope some of the advice that I gave you helps out.
GOOD LUCK AND, ONCE AGAIN, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
2007-03-07 08:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have two different problems, fix one and it may fix the other.
Let me start by saying you should have never been put the position you are in, but it's a interesting one anyhow.
First of all, I would set down with your mom and ask her why she won't pay the child support, I work around and paid for my 2 son's and $175.00 isn't much. Explain to her that by her not paying it does the following.
1. Puts you in the middle
2. If your dad wants to he can take her back to court.
3. She will very well have to pay more money
4. with the new laws she could go to jail
5. Lose her driver license
6. She is really cheating you and your brothers
If she will listen to you that fixes both
If she doesn't then I'd tell your dad he needs to take her back to court.
2007-03-07 08:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave the room when he starts talking about it. He shouldn't put you in the middle and eventually, after leaving every time he brings it up, he may realize this. I'm sorry you have to go through that.
2007-03-07 08:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and tell him whats up. Also don't do encorage you to go against him but try to tell him that that's his problem. He is the one how has the problem with your mom so try to get them together to talk everything out. Much Luck!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-07 08:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to get him to stop putting you in the middle. If he can not do it Than it is time for him to get a lawyer to do it .
2007-03-07 08:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋