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I’m graduating high school this year. I have had a lot of really bad experiences that I would like to forget. My question is…I’m curious to know if the way I am acting is normal because I’m a bit concerned for myself. I know that might sound strange but…I’ve pretty much cut off communication with a lot of my friends. The only people I really talk to now are my friends that are going to be attending the same college as me. Sadly enough many of them don’t attend the same high school as me. I’ve deleted a lot of friend’s phone numbers because I feel if my friends want to see me they will call me. I don’t know why I am acting the way I am it’s really unintentional but I’m curious to know if this is a normal thing that everyone goes through just cutting off communication with friends and not talking to them...

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A reason I have cut off ties with my one friend is because I feel she has issues. She comes over to my house eats whatever she pleases without asking and takes whatever she pleases without asking. She has made my family make her separate meals because she doesn’t like what they cooked. She has even urinated in my shower! (no lie) And the main reason is because she gets angry easily. She has kicked me on numerous different occasions and recently punched me in the face because I made a comment towards her that offended her.

Another friend i have recently cut off ties with i feel i did for the right reason. She had two big house parties and refused to invite me. She told me straight to my face she would not invite me because a few of her friends "hated me" and she didn't want them not to show up so she felt it would be better for me and her just to hang out separate then invite me to her party. I'm sorry 2 of her parties. She has done this every year she has one big party since 7th grade and she has been doing this to me every year refusing to invite me because she's afraid of what other people will think of her.

Answer 1

First off, your friend has issues, so I do not blame you for cutting off communication with her. Secondly, I did the same thing when I graduated High School, I really do not call my friends if you'd like to call them that to this day. I think it's something that certain people go through when trying to organize priorities and such things. You'll grow out of it eventually and if you do not well no big deal, they can always call you, there is no need for you to call them and they do not answer and then you have to wait days for them to call you back, by then you could have told someone else or asked someone else the same thing you were going to ask them. I'm still going through this phase, but it's simply because I grew up in a small town and I want to forget everything in that town. I do not even like going back on weekends and/or holidays, but I do because I do not want to pay the break fees and all at school. Hope this helps. Good luck and have a nice day. :-)

Answer 2

Your actions are totally normal, so no worries. It sounds to me like you want to make a fresh start when you go to college, which is perfectly fine. There's nothing wrong with wanting to make new friends, or ending old friendships that aren't necessarily healthy. And remember, your true friends will continue to be there and support you, even if you withdraw a bit. It's all part of finding yourself.