I have yelled.I have ridiculed.I have spanked, I have taken away privilages.But still she insists on using the bathroom in her pants.What gives?
2007-03-07 08:07:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
YOU ARE MAKING HER NERVOUS!! Be understanding.
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2007-03-07 08:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give her a Smartie everytime she actually goes on the potty and ever time she goes in her pants just say - no Smartie this time, but that's okay, you can try again later.
My son outright refused to go potty too. I ended up using my vacation to potty train (and I will do the same with my daughter). No diapers all day, Smarties for going on the potty and by the end of the week he was doing very well, he made the whole day without an accident and actually wanted to go potty and didn't want his diaper anymore.
2007-03-07 16:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with your 3 year old, they doesn't really know about taking privilages away from them and spanking them you are probably scaring her. if you want get a calander and some smile stickers and everytime they uses the bathroom, and not in theirpants let them put a sticker on the calender and at the end of the week reward them. good luck.
2007-03-07 16:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by misty blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
patience. you really need to take a chill pill.
sadly one of my earliest memories is having my nanny watch me on the potty. she wouldn't let me get up until i went #1. no matter how much i cried, she made me sit there.
the thing i remember most about her was that she was a sweet lady. she didn't yell or scream or inflict harsh punishments. instead she calmly informed me that i could not leave the toilet until i tinkled. as simple as that.
punishing your child may produce results, but think of the stress your inflicting on the baby. your inability to show patience and comfort, may invoke some new anxieties that will negatively affect the way they handle future jobs and challenges. For all we know, your poor kid may not ever outgrow this ridicule and abuse. Remember you're a parent, a nurturer, a teacher...
And for goodness sake, if you can't handle it, then just do what my parents did... Pay someone to give them the guidance and patience that they need.
2007-03-07 16:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negative reinforcement will just make it so much worse!!! Try positive reinforcement instead. Give her a small reward each time she does it on the potty. My daughters like stickers and have their own charts on the wall that they decorate themselves whenever I give them their reward sticker.
Yelling, spanking, etc. won't work. It will just scare the child and make her not want to try anything for fear that she's going to get yelled at or hit again.
2007-03-07 16:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy of 2 Girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well disciplining a child will do no good when it comes to potty training. It will make them more apprehensive. So that is your main problem right there. you really should have talked to your pediatrician before insulting your child. That is so wrong. She might have problems now for a long time with bedwetting now because of it.
Not even that but now you are gonna have problems with her having self-esteem issues because of the ridiculing. so good luck and I feel bad for your child. I hope you are just uneducated in the area of potty training and thats just not a normal way you handle things with an innocent child.
2007-03-07 16:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by Rae M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are late trying to get him to use the bathroom at the age of 3. what was you doing when he was 1 and 2. yelling at him is not going to make him go to the bathroom at all. you just need to start sitting him on the toilet every 2 1/2 hour and let him sit there for 5 min or so till he use it and them right before he goes to bed just don't like him drink anything after 8:30 at night
2007-03-07 16:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by ***you 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe try an incentive. Something you know she would really want. Put it somewhere where she can see it in the bathroom but out of reach. Make a chart and tell her when she goes potty she'll get a star next to her name and that when she reaches a set # of stars she can have her treat.
2007-03-07 16:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by MBN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a little potty chair and put it in the bathroom, by the bathroom, in the kitchen, living room - whereever! But make it fun. Plus those little "pull-ups" look like they might make it more rewarding for her. (they didn't have those when mine werelittle) Make a big deal out of it when she does use it. But don't be too hard on her if she slips! That can cause more damage than its worth!
2007-03-07 16:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by KATHY A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try giving her mini M & M's, or a treat if she goes alone. Maybe it's a security. Take her to the store and let her pick out her favorite toy... don't buy it, but tell her that if she goes potty by herself from now on, you will go back to the store and buy that toy for her. Try giving things instead of taking, this seems to work better as a discipline.
2007-03-07 16:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done all the wrong things! I know a thing or two about child psychiatry, and hitting NEVER works for an extended period of time. You need to sit her down and tell her she is a growing girl and that she needs to start acting like it. "By using the grown up potty," is a famous one.
Another route would be to offer her something. If she goes, she gets a new doll. Bribery will stay with them, and in this case, it cannot hurt.
2007-03-07 16:10:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋