HELP ,MY 2 YR OLD IS BADDDDDDDDDDDDd?

Question

my 2 yr old son is always fighting with his cousin witch is 3 yrs old....im scared he might start with my 5 mth old, is there anything i can do. note when i said fight i really mean fight they really get into it punchs and all

Answer 1

Hi...Ah..terrible twos!! As hard as it is, when the fighting happens, separate the children. Change their minds. Don't give too much attention to negatives. As soon as he does something positive, jump up and down, say Yea!! Every time he does a positive thing, make him feel wonderful by letting him know you are so proud of him, clapping, and smiling...hugs, etc. As soon as he disobeys again, try not to talk too much. Say "no"...Change his mind, and he will see that negative attention is not as much fun as when he gets positive attention. Good luck to you...it's tough!

Answer 2

Just remember: there are NO BADDDDDDDDDDDDD toddlers, just bad parenting.

That wasn't meant to be a slam either. Just means we have to watch what we do and say in front of our little ones. There is a way to teach them positively.

For instance, we don't tell him NO HITTING by hitting him.

It is going to take more effort on your part and seeing how you are extremely busy with baby #2, he has felt the neglect. As little as it may seem to you, it could be making all the difference to him. Spend more one on one time with him. When he does do something that is NOT acceptable... you sit him down, face to face, (making sure he's NOT looking up to you but on your same level) and you tell him that it's not acceptable and mommy and daddy don't like that. Tell him that it hurts people when you hit them and you're sure he wouldn't want someone to hit him.

Now, I'm not saying that there isn't a time and place for a pat on the rear if things are getting out of control and you need to get toddlers attention... I just feel the more often you do it, the less effective it becomes. I'd try NOT to do it at all and see where you get. It's worked for me.

Be sure to praise him when you see him doing ANYTHING positive... such as picking up his toys, eating all his dinner, or helping with baby. The more positive his life is, the more positive his behavior will be.

This is a rough time for you, I understand, especially with baby #2, but at just 2 years old --- he's still a baby himself.

Good luck, stay strong and consistent.

Answer 3

He learned this behavior from someone. Be firm, set ground rules that are not negotiable! Tell your son that if he hits his cousin he is going to go in his room, And stick to it. Everytime he does it increase his time a little bit. Also his 3 year old cousin needs to understand he cannot fight with your son either. Does your son have influences in his life that teach him this? I know my brother in law would always wrestle with my 2 year old, and I wondered why during the week my son would just come up to me and want to fight, I had to tell my brother in law that he had to stop doing this, because a two year old does not understand that it's ok to wrestle sometimes, but not whenever he wants. Also when you are talking to your son, get down to his level, make eye contact with him.

Answer 4

It is the terrible two's, plus he could be jealous of the baby. You need to involve him in helping to look after the baby. Ask him to get the clean nappies, let him help you to wash the baby. If you are able to when you feed the baby read him a book. Start a star chart, when he is good add a star, sticker or stamp. I have found these things to work. My children are now 25, 24 and 21. I also have a 12 month old grandchild.

Answer 5

There is no such thing as a bad 2 year old. I can't believe you are calling your son bad. You discipline the child when the child punches. You need to start watching Supernanny or something. If you think a child is bad, they will be. If you don't put them in time out or anything, then you are very much so apart of the problem.

Answer 6

Time to isolate your child from his cousin when they are fighting. Two time out chairs are in order here. One on one side of the room, the other on the other side...Not so fun !! They should be told, " I don`t like watching you two fight, please stop"!! If they don`t than say," OH NO, Time Out"!! No fighting, it can hurt people!!Oh and your child is not bad, hate the behaviour, LOL!! Otherwise you`ll resent your child forever! LOL! Kids misbehave, I know 1 year olds that can manipulate. You need to watch Bill Cosby, AS HIMSELF, it`s a stand up of Bill Cosby describing his experiences with his wife and kids! TOOOOO FUNNNNYYYY!!

Answer 7

What ever you do do not overlook approximately them. you do not could desire to spank them. purely attempt to discover the thank you to spend greater time with them. Now of course given which you have 3 toddlers spending time with them in my opinion is damn close to impossible. So attempt looking group activities for them. and supply the a large form of compliment whilst they are properly behaved. wreck out some finger paints, and paint with them. attempt baking a cake, and permitting them to help--I advise the 6 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous, and permit the two 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous&10 month previous play with a plastic spatula so they think of they are helping. positioned on some song, and dance around the front room with them. purely discover something to try this will shop them happy. you will not have as plenty time to your self, yet you would be plenty happier, your toddlers will combat plenty much less, and you will sense plenty greater finished. have confidence me i be responsive to. I do all this with my females, and we've an extremely close bond. We visit the coastline, dance, run interior the sprinkler, paint, colour,nap, and play with the animals jointly each and all the time. they are ok behaved, simply by fact i'm constantly rewarding them with compliment.

Answer 8

DISAPLINE!!!

time out, take away toys, tell him NO! Tell him that this is unacceptable and make sure he knows u mean it!

Hes not bad-Hes a child, who is learning. If he is not taught what to do then he will do as he likes, he needs you to teach him!

Reward him when hes not fighting! Children prefere negitive attention to no attention! So if u give him attention when hes being good then he wont need the negitive attention!

Answer 9

Well the best way to teach is by example, so just make sure that your son isn't exposed to any violence at home or anything. Also just try not to lose your temper or have anyone else lose theirs around him, kids pick upon that stuff and imitate it. Just try be as calm as possible and try to distract him instead of punish. Good Luck!

Answer 10

you should start using a consistent dicipline strategy. you may have tried to break it up before, but if you are not consistent and show them you are serious, they will just do it time and time again. i would also start watching super nanny on abc @ 8 on mondays. there are a lot of things on that show you can use to disipline him. a lot of the kids on the show do those sorts of things. they also have a web adrresss where they post parenting help. good luck!