And my girlfriend has found out about the second time. She does not know it was twice. Now she says I can
now forget being with her. What are some things I could do and say to get her back and resolve the situation?
Should I tell her about the first time I was with the woman
just in case she finds that out too?
2007-03-07 07:52:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congratulations dude ur still even alive...i would make sure there are no sharp knives laying around ur place just to be on the safe side..sleeping with one eye open may be adviseable...and giving your enemy more ammunition is inadviseable in any war situation~
2007-03-07 07:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok Todd. Why do you disrespect your girlfriend like that? Have all three of you been checked for STD's? What if you just gave your g/f warts or something? What if the other girl gets pregnant?
If you have issues with honesty, commitment, and monogamy, then you need to wait on having a serious girlfriend until you can become mature enough to have a serious and respectful relationship. It is better to not lead anyone on and pretend that you are capable of having a healthy and monogamous relationship when you are not ready for that. That behavior is hurtful and disrespectful and you are putting stuff out there in the universe that will exact a price later on... karma's a funny thing, when you least expect it, it will reach out and give you a wedgie...
Anyway, I am going to guess at some point she will find out the whole truth and then you will be caught in a second lie as well. So now you are a liar about the cheating, on top of all the lies you told to get yourself into the situation, then lied about having sex twice... I would say that if your g/f has any respect for herself, expect to be kicked to the curb, as you well deserve!
So, are you going to be a bigger liar and weasel and try to get away with just being in trouble for one time? Or are you going to be a man and tell her the truth, apologize for disrespecting her and then gracefully bow out? Then you need to go home and have a nice long look at yourself and decide what kind of man you are at this point in your life. Be honest with yourself and then honest with the women you are dating. There is nothing wrong with not being ready for a committed relationship, but there is plenty wrong with not being honest about where you are and disrespecting someone you care about, exposing them to diseases, and making them live a lie.
I hope you decide to be a man and tell her the whole truth.
2007-03-07 16:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by dedum 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do at this point is to not bother going after your girlfriend and let her go buddy.If you know you have a problem with commitment then you should just stay single for now and date alot of different women and have all the sex you can possibly get..and then there will come a day when you will meet a woman that will make your heart skip a beat and you'll no longer want to be with anyone but her..if you don't get this out of your system now you will spend the rest of your life cheating on girlfriends and getting caught and the guilt is not worth the pleasure..believe me been there done that..
2007-03-07 16:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by rcbrokebones 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just move on and forget the girlfriend. If you cannot be faithful, keep moving. Don't submit anyone else to your garbage.
Go do whatever you need to do and in the coming years if you feel you can be faithful, or even want to be, try a relationship again. You should be honest enough to tell a person going in to an affair with you that you are not to be trusted. Then everything is out in the open and no one should get hurt when you do it again.
Yes, no matter what you say now, you WILL do it again.
2007-03-07 15:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that u need 2 take a good look at what u did and ask yourself if u really love your girlfriend and if this other girl means anything 2 u. If u want to have sex with the same girl again that means that you aren't ready 4 a real relationship and u need to just be by yourself instead of holding on to your girlfriend.
2007-03-07 16:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by sweet p 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She obviously doesn't want you back and what ever you say or do will not make a difference, especially if you bring up the subject of your infidelity that it wasn't just once but twice, it will just make her despise you even more.
Do the woman a favor and leave her alone. She doesn't need someone like you in her life.
Just ask your self would you be so forgiving if it had been her, the one that cheated.
2007-03-07 16:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by hayde_kat 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
BOTTOM LINE- SHE'S NOT AND PROBABLY NEVER WAS YOUR GIRLFRIEND! SHE WAS AN OBJECT... A THING TO BE USED for your pleasure and at her expense! Are you getting a picture here from all of the responses- others see you as a user, a sociopath at best! You seem to be lacking in basic moral judgment or a conscience. Don't bother her, walk away. Advice- use hookers, at least it's honest booty- you pay to play- and stop hurting others.
2007-03-07 16:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't deserve to have a girlfriend since you can't be honest with her. No resolution. You're a loser until you wake up. You blew it with this girl. Rethink the way you think, find a girlfriend you can be faithful to or don't have a girlfriend and play the field. It's guys like you who give guys like me a bad name.
2007-03-07 16:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by Hibbler 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh, what tangled webs we weave....hmmm. I would tell her and be upfront about it all. The chances of you getting her back are slim to none anyway. Might as well come clean. As for what you can do to get her back ? Pretty much nothing. A woman scorned, man....sorry. You made your bed, and now you must sleep in it.
2007-03-07 15:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
are u 4real? why do u want to be with ur gurl if u have cheated on her 2?if u really cared about her u wouldnt cheat on her..but lets say it was a BIG mistake..then why did u do again for the 2time? and YES u should let her know that u have cheated on her 2w.this gurl..not only because ur afraid that she might find out but for godsake have a lil respect for her if u really care.
2007-03-07 15:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Just_Me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋