How can I get over being shy and talking to a girl??

Question

I tend to stutter, drone, don't know what to say, can't look a girl in the face very often. I think girls think I'm weird, or cold, dumb, etc.

Answer 1

Try to find somthing a head of time to talk about, and just pracitce what to say over and over. Trying to picture the girl just as a friend. Try finding things you both have in common, and spending more and more time with her will make you feel more comfortable. In time you will be able to feel fine and not so nervous. Get a phone number from her after talking to her a few times, if your too nervous to ask her face to face get a friend to do it or write her a letter and give it to her. You need to talk chances or you will never know what could of been. Take deep breaths and try talking slow and clear not fast.

Answer 2

It's easy for non stutterers to say"be more confident" that's dumb! you wouldn't stutter if you were more confident. Take it slowly, smile at a girl you like and say Hi, that's all, next time say Hi and something else, just a little. there is no need to have a whole conversation right off the bat, let her know you like her by doing something nice( if she already knows, or suspects you like her then buy her some flowers or send her a note, you can say lots in a note that you may not be able to get out without stuttering. If she has e mail send her a note that way, and tell her you have a stuttering problem. It's NOTHING to be ashamed of. Good luck

Answer 3

Well, I personally thinkit is kinda cute when a guy gets nervous, not that I have TONS of experiance. I think you should just try to start up a conversation, start with a topic. If she gets weirded out maybe let her know you are kinda shy. Most girls will think it is cute that you can admit that and you are nervous. Maybe get a friend to come with you and you can all talk untill you get more comfortable.

Answer 4

look man i used to be the same as you lmao. i know you think you won't be able to ever talk to a girl because i used to feel the same when i was feeling a bit down and low on self esteem. you should always remember that when your talking to a girl that they can be just as nervous as us. and the key is to make them laugh- girls love someone that can make them laugh. or just try and find something in common. next time you speak say "hey.." as a starter but stare straight into their eyes. it may seem awkward at the start but then say something like "so what's up".. just try to keep the convo going and try to avoid "yes no" questions because you will find it awkward then. just keep the convo going and you will find you've broken your little problem;)

edit: sorry "yeah15s" but i disagree. don't say that your nervous because then she will feel pretty nervous. just take a laid back approach but one that shows your interested. good luck;)

oh and don't listen to those people trying to get you to sign up to sites. they're just spammers mate.

Answer 5

The spammer is right, you just need to work on your confidence. Have a take-charge mindset. You are interesting. You are funny. Use it.

Take a dale carnegie course. It'll boost your confidence and teach you what to talk about.

Answer 6

Tell her that you're kindof nervous so she doesn't get the wrong idea. And if you don't look her in the face, she'll feel like you think she's ugly or something.

Compliment her and she'll probably think it's cute. Try havinggirls just as friends, maybe it'll get you used to talking to girls.

Answer 7

DO NOT DO WHAT THAT GUY SAID. to get over being shy, just practice. talk to girls when you are around then that you aren't interested in, this will give you more confidence to talk to the ones you are interested in. just be yourself... but play up your confidence. it is the most important thing, pretend you are more confident than you are. it will work.

Answer 8

ud be surprized, a bunch of us have that problem. try this it really helps. whenever approaching a girl u really like. just imagine she's a friend that u always talk to. picture yourself in another situation... so DONT think hey im asking this girl out. better yet. think im just gonna ask my friend who happens to be a girl to the movies. and if she says no so what.

Answer 9

Honest to god, have a couple drinks before you see the girl you want to talk to. It loosens up nerves perfectly.

Answer 10

ask about her family like whetehr she has brothers and sisters What she likes to eat all that stuff....if youre not driving age see if parents will let her come to visit at the house..