my girlfriend and I were at this resteraunt with my colleauge from work and after talking with my girlfriend and I for a couple of minutes he said, "you didn't tell me your girlfriend was a freaking JAP." I told him to take that back or else, and he said okay I'm sorry lighten up. My girlfriend rolled her eyes at his comment but I could tell she was annoyed. My girlfriend is Jewish, so I thought he was being kind of prejudiced, plus she's not spoiled at all. (I'm probablly more spoiled than she is.)
2007-03-07 07:46:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It's a slur. It was a dumb thing to say and being offended isn't wrong. I don't understand why he called her that and he should't have.
2007-03-07 07:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does she act like a Jewish-American Princess? It's not really something you could just call a girl without really getting to know her. I don't think it's very offensive (in this context obviously, if she was Japanese it would be different). I think your girlfriend handled it well by just rolling her eyes, it's a stupid thing to fight about. Your friend is a retard.
2007-03-07 15:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Jap" is a fighting word to many Japanese. Sounds like your friend was not trying to be malicious though. He is just ignorant. You could have enlightened him without threatening him.
2007-03-07 15:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by semdot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to feel however you want. Your colleauge is a small minded prick xx
2007-03-07 15:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by Londonbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The freakin' is more of a turnoff than the Jap.
I would probably have told him that he is a jerk. But getting offended? Nah...
2007-03-07 15:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was jealous!! don't worry about it if he apologized some people are just ignorant. just worry about you girl friend and not smarty pants people like that which apparently don't have anything else to worry about. maybe it was a compliment in his own weird way.
2007-03-07 15:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by willwork4u2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very offensive! I good answer would have been "Wow! I didn't know you were a racist jerk!"
I'm glad that you stood up for your girl.
2007-03-07 16:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should and shouldnt because its a racial slur and it can be very offending so yeah but no because the person doesnt know her but you cant always be there for her so yeah
2007-03-07 15:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by corey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the only time he does something like this, I wouldn't worry about it.
If he does it a lot, then tell him to hit the road.
2007-03-07 15:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if your girlfriend was offended, then you should back her up. But if she wasn't, then let it slide.
2007-03-07 15:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋