Lately, my boyfriend of 4 years hasnt had sex with me for a while. He always said he is to tired since he is doing his medical residency.
Last night, I met up with a classmate of mine that attends medical school with me to study......after a while, one thing led to another, and we had sex. This afternoon, he came over to the apartment my boyfriend and I live in, and had sex again.
At the same time, I dont feel bad that I did this in our apartment in the bed that my boyfriend and I share....is that bad that I'm not feeling guilty at all?
2007-03-07 07:43:29 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it's pretty bad , that your in a medical field and have no conscience is also bad . Would you want to be treated by someone who didn't give a dam about how you may feel ? Same thing , just different relationship , stop being so self - centered . The world doesn' t revolve around you and your desire for gratification . I hope you develop some morals very soon !
2007-03-07 07:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd say yes because most people do.. Maybe you don't love your boyfriend anymore? Since he is spending so much time at the hospital you don't have time for each other and sex.
Have a big think about it and ask yourself if you do truly love your boyfriend and want to live your life with him, or whether you are just with him for comfort.
If you don't feel guilty about cheating the first time, you're not going to feel guilty about cheating a second, third, fourth and so on. It'll turn into something you do regularly.
Do you want to turn into that kind of person?
Have a talk with your boyfriend about your sex life. Maybe buy some sex toys to lure him into bed a bit more? Or if he is too tired, give him a gentle body massage. Touching is a very sensual thing and if you hit the right spots, you could get lucky with your boyfriend instead of a classmate.
Good Luck!
2007-03-07 07:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by katkitten135 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean is it bad that you don't feel guilty. Do you have no compassion for others? Your boyfriend has been working his butt off doing his residency and you don't feel bad that you cheated on him.
He is trying to make a life for himself and after 4 years I would say for you too and all you can think about it the lack of intimacy you are having.
Not only did you not care once about what you did but you went so far as to do it again in the bed that you share with him. If I were you I'd be ashamed of yourself. I hope that you boyfriend finds someone who truly cares about him cause it's obvious you don't.
2007-03-07 07:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe I wasted all that time answering your past posts and giving you advice on this relationship. It appears I valued your relationship more than you do since you cheated on the poor guy while I'm writing long answers about how to deal with the strain of dating a resident.
When he dumps you he will be a happier man. There is always a nicer, more loving, hotter, honest, faithful, sexier woman in line to take the spot of a selfish, demanding cheater. He would have upgraded eventually anyway.
2007-03-08 16:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Coco Jingle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it wasn't right 4 u 2 have sex with some1 else in the bed u share, but no 1 can tell u how 2 feel...however, if u don't feel guilty, u should definitely end the relationship with ur boyfriend...i say that cuz u might end up cheatin on him again and that is not fair 2 him...if he isn't meetin ur needs, u need 2 find some1 who can...
2007-03-07 07:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Aurora Blue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wrong...I believe that before cheating, you should just break with the other person...if you love someone, and care about him, you would think it twice before having sex with someone else...or at least would try to avoid the temptation...
I understand that we have physical needs, but just think for a moment how would you feel if your BF is cheating on you? If you don't care, you definetly aren't in love with your BF...do both a favor, and break with him.
Not feeling guilty might be a sign that you dont love your BF anymore...that happens...
Good Luck to all of you!
2007-03-07 07:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by PRLadyDama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's bad! U have cheated someone who truly loves u. Do u think sex is the only greatest feeling in the world? No my friend! Greatest thing on earth is love which u can hardly find.
2007-03-07 07:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by Smile- conquers the world 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a good thing, we don't know enough to judge him, but from what he's doing with his life, it's good, just tough to stand by and tough to endure, but if you wanted some sexual thrill, you should have communicated with him about it and worked something out, it's going to be really hard. But if you don't feel guilty, maybe you've already given up on your bf.
2007-03-07 07:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a problem. Your boyfriend is also cheating behind your back, with your best friend. He won't tell you about it, and if he did, you can tell him about your mis-behaving.
Just having one boyfriend doesn't mean you're tied down completely. Sex doesn't mean emotional bond, if it did, hookers of the world would be very very depressed after they get paid.
2007-03-07 07:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by my alias 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are not feeling guilty, because in your mind you think your boyfriend is also cheating. If one is too tired from school and another is not then something is wrong.
2007-03-07 07:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Tony S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋