Would I ever find someone that would love me for me?

Question

I'm 5'4 (19 years old) and I weigh arounds 125 pounds, I'm very smart, good looking, but see I always have bad luck when it comes to relationships. I'm a very determined person, but yeah, I'm not like the rest of the other guys, meaning that I'm more of a man, I don't be acting all tough, I don't be going around looking for a pornostar, but the girls I've been with always dumped me for another guy, what's up with that?

Answer 1

There are several possible reasons for this situation. Looks, brains and even money have little to do with what is going on.

First look at the way you interact with other people. Do you try to find mutual areas of interest or do all conversations revolve around either you or her? Do you boast about yourself or cut yourself and others down? Do all of your conversations sound like lines out of old movies?

Everyone can find romance. The problem with romance is that it never lasts and always fades with time. As far as love, when you stop looking, it will find you. You just need to be prepared to see it when it comes.

To change the world (or your luck in the world), you just need to change yourself. Be open and honest and stop playing games except with those who know it is a game and know what the rules of the game are.

Answer 2

You're young and people at your age range are usually shallow. Although they'll probably never admit to this. Maybe those girls wanted more excitement, more danger, more carelessness than what you provided.

In general however, mature girls look for mature guys. So if you are as mature as you say you are, then you don't need to change anything, but wait for the right one to come around.

The right girl will find you beautiful in all ways and will not trade you for anything. I know this, because I'm just your usual chump with the wife that is probably blind, because she wouldn't change me for anything.

When you find that, you've found the right girl. So don't focus on looks alone, but focus on their feelings, on their needs, and their desires. If you don't fit in these areas, then don't be surprised to lose the girl.

Finally, some girls are still imature and will not have clear wants and needs. They have yet to figure themselves out. They're a gamble to date, because they may "figure" things out with another guy!