I'm christian and have learnt that when a friend asks you for something you must give double to him, but it's quite hard for me because I feel like I'm being used,what can I do to cope?I've already reminded them about the money once and don't want to do it again.
thanks
2007-03-07 07:27:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we have agreed on paying 5 dollars each
2007-03-07 07:37:22 · update #1
I'd ask them each one more time with a direct question. "I'm going to pick up XXXXX's gift today. Were you chipping in?" If they don't pony up you and you're in charge of picking the gift just choose something less expensive. If you picked the gift by committee and broke down the donation amount by that you may have to talk to everyone else and choose something else. Either way, you gave them one more chance to do what was agreed upon or change their minds.
2007-03-07 11:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes time to buy the gift, you can either spend the extra money that you would have gotten from them or you can go a little cheaper. If you spend the extra cash, then you can just take the personal gratification that you got them really great gifts. As for the two who didn't pay you, just don't pu their names on the cards. Then the recipients will know that they did not contribute anything. I don't think there's anything un-christian-like in that.
2007-03-07 15:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you buy a card and have everyone who contributed to the gift and card sign it. If the people who have not contributed ask if they can sign the card, tell them sure if they decide to be part of the gift and pay their fair share. You can still consider yourself a Christian, I don't believe that God would like us to be taken advantage of by anyone.
2007-03-07 15:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by flieder77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT have them sign the card if the have not paid, and make sure the colleagues that receive the presents know the present is only from you.
2007-03-07 15:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then tell them is they dont pay up there name will be lfet out of the card
and that ur not tring to be mean but u arent gonna give credit to some 1 who didnt do anything
2007-03-07 15:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you also buy the card ... make sure only the people that contributed money to buy the gift puts their name on the card. and stick w/that! good luck!!
2007-03-07 15:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Daisie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buy something that doesn't cost that much but means so much more
2007-03-07 15:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Cristy77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋