My brother is 22 years old. 2 years ago he told my parents he had social anxiety disorder so my mom took him to the doc. He has been labled with depersonalization and OCD ( but with obssessive thoughts not behaviors). Anyhow, this all started his second year in college after he had trouble fitting in and was doing drugs, etc. My mom is sure it is schitzophrenia because an aunt has this. She just won't let up that she is right on her diagnosis. The last two docs they went to diagnosed her with the same OCD my brother has because she obsesses on his problems so much and babies him and told her they did not want to see her anymore. He is so disrespectful and comes to my sister and my house at least 3 times a week, he eats us out of house and home and has ill manners. We have said things subtly to him, but he continues to ignore what we ask. She will not even make him work, go to school, do housework, etc. My parents can't afford to continue supporting him financially. What do I do?
2007-03-07 07:26:39 · 11 answers · asked by bookworm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
have a serious talk with her and him
and tell them u cant take it anymore
and id make an appointment with a therapist to talk to the therapist once session urself and get some ideas on what to do
then bring the whole family in together and make a conclusion
2007-03-07 07:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother is mentally ill, his parents are making things worse for him. He needs to be in treatment, maybe even rehab, if he uses drugs and alcohol. Tell him about self help groups that offer meetings were he lives and tell him that you love him, but that he is no longer welcome unless he gets help for himself. Make a list of scheduled meetings he can attend, if he does not have a car, take him or call the group and ask someone to give him a ride. Many alcoholics or drug abusers have been labeled schizophrenic, it was easier for the loved ones to enable them to stay sick., then to face up to the real problems.
2007-03-07 07:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by flieder77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously discuss this with your father. He should have some say in what your mother does. You can also report him to the police there is such a thing as elderly abuse which it sounds like your brother is doing. I also would stop opening up your home to him even if he is your brother.
2007-03-07 07:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by ambr95012 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister and you should leave town and not leave a forwarding address. Get on with your lives and leave your brother to cope by himself, your parents will give all they can regardless of your actions.
2007-03-07 07:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't his parent. Do nothing, except keep him out of your house unless you want him there. Your mom and brother have to work this out.
2007-03-07 07:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by mzindica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything about your brother and his relationship with your parents. That's for them to work out.
It sounds like you live separately and your brother is a leech. Tell him he's only welcome by invitation and don't let him in if he stops by without invitation.
2007-03-07 07:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
beat the crap out of him, this is alway the ONLY to get to disrespectful brother and sister
2007-03-07 07:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you say is NO-
No you may not come in.
No you may not eat our food
No you may not be disrespectful of us
No you may not...unless you follow OUR RULES IN OUR HOUSE
Then stick to it.
2007-03-07 07:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
throw him out of the house....he should make a life
2007-03-07 07:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by i am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK YOUR BROTHER TO WATCH MORE COMEDIES SO THAT HE BECOME MORE INTERACTIVE. PERHAPS HE MIGHT LOVE TO ACT IN HOLLYWOOD TO FINANCE HIMSELF IN THE LONG TERM.
2007-03-07 07:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by GOOGOOGAAGAA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋