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Question

we only broke up 4 days ago..am i not meant to be happy now... ?
he said he doest love me.. he put me through so much pain
over the last couple of months... i dont know why my heart
aches for him still..why did i love him??
im now single i feel so alone.. its everywhere i go,
we've been there together..reminds me of the fact that
it was never true..when i felt it was.
how can i move on and still stay friends with him..?
im not eating much this week, and i have never felt my
heart beat soo strong ever..this week feels like its dragging
on and on..
everyone tells me to live it up and party but
i know being with other blokes will only make me
realise that my heart is broken...

help i dont know what to do now???

Answer 1

can anyone say "needy"? Go out and find someone new, quit feeling sorry for yourself and move along with your life!

Answer 2

a friend of mine had sent this to me on myspace. maybe it can help but i'm not sure.


1. Marriage- Don't get married until you are at least 25. It is important that you take this time to learn about yourself: your goals, aspirations, values and things that make you smile! After you've decided on these things, it is only then that you can begin looking for a mate that will support you and mesh with the life style you want.

2. Dating- I know that this is very hard, but don't get serious too quick. Have fun, meet lots of people and maintain your values while doing so. Any man that is worth your time will understand. If he makes you cry, he's not the one for you. If he doesn't make you laugh, he's not the one for you. If there is even one twinge of doubt, he is not the one for you.

3. Fear- Don't be afraid of being alone. Know that you are strong and have all the tools you need to succeed. Understand that because you will continue to learn every day, you have nothing to fear. A man shouldn't make you feel whole. You should already be 2 wholes coming together. Also, don't be afraid of change. Too many people including myself become paralyzed with fear of change. Without change, there is never a chance for more! Besides, the world and your surroundings are going to change with or without you...so it's best to stay moving.

4. Happiness-Don't count on another person to make you happy. Count on yourself. Learn to do the things that make you happy and don't stop doing these things no matter what obligations come your way. These are very important to your well being. You have needs. Never put them on the back burner. You can be no good to anyone if you're not first good to yourself.

Answer 3

I know you don't feel like dating right now, and that's normal. What you CAN do is make yourself feel better. Pamper yourself. Go to a spa, get a pedicure, a manicure, a new hairstyle. Treat yourself to a new pair of sexy high heel shoes, a facial, or buy a wonderful mystery novel and curl up in your favorite chair after a long, hot bubble bath and read by the fireplace while sipping on a steamy caramel mocha. Doesn't that sound heavenly ? You deserve it ! You'll be okay ! Look at you...you are a wonderful person ! Any man would be lucky to have you. Perk up....and enjoy being by yourself...use this time to explore who YOU really are, what YOU need, and what YOU want in life. Take care.

Answer 4

I dont think the answer is to go run out and party. You need to take some time and reflect on the relationship, learn from it, get over it, then move on. Take all the time you need. You need to learn that you are complete even when you are alone- yes your heart may be broken now but you can stand strong on your own once again!

So take some time, write down what you feel and read it over, and always have on your mind your next steps in life- and always KNOW (not think) that only better things lie ahead for you!

Answer 5

girl,

I am so sorry for your disappointment!
I have been there and I know how it feels..
But plz never blame yourself ! We all make mistakes, if we knew from the beginning what kind of person is the our ex mate, then we all would be happy ! And no need to break up!

I understand your feeling, but believe me again, all those bad ones will pass by the time. Everything in life has a purpose to be so something good will come out from this finished relationship...

No you cant stay friends with him..besides why to do so???
I am sure you can find better friends!
he is the one who hurt you remember? what do you need a friend like him for?!

Go on to your life, get yourself some hobbies, go out with friends, read, work, have some fun!
Life is wonderful
some people can make it terrible
Dont let them !

I truly wish you the best

Regards

Answer 6

Write in a diary; scream into your pillow; rent sad movies and cry.

It will take time but you will get over it. Everyone has had a broken heart at some point. Try to focus on doing something good for yourself. Make a change in your life. Rearrange your flat or take a class you've always wanted to take. Sitting aorund and moping over him will only make it worse.

If you really feel depressed, you may want to try some St. John's Wort to improve your mood.

Good luck! There's a better guy out there for you.

Answer 7

I'm in the same boat you are. I have been asking myself the same questions are you at this moment. It has gotten a little easier everyday since we have split. There were sooo many times when I just wanted to stay home and not go face the world. All you can do is use this as a learning tool and move on. If you need anyone to talk with feel free to email [e-mail], since we are dealing with the samething in life.

Answer 8

You prbably won't be staying friends with him, but what you need to do is some self-healing. Do the things that make you happy. Try to better yourself in either habits, school, work, or anything as long as its productive. you need to realize that you can survive and be happy without him. Do things that will make you feel better and refrain from talking to him. Cut contacts with him and focus on other things. Eventually your life will be back on track and you will realize you are better off without him. Don't worry, everythig will be fine, it just takes time.

Answer 9

I know it´s very sad when you get your heart broken.I split with my 6 year live in boyfriend,we have a baby and I really love him.I think it was for the best,he is a terrible father,never remembers his child's birthday,Christmas nothing,he never calls her or visits our daughter.That's what made me realize he doesn´t love me,and that also helps me not fall for him again.
As you can see it´s not the end of the world.

Answer 10

move on, dont live in the past and try not to think about it. you can start over each day and just put everything behind you. and def go out and party and what not, just have fun and move on and give it more time then 4 days before you get your self so down that you think about suicide or something

http://www.ehow.com/how_116958_mend-broken-heart.html
my personal advice, go celebrate being single and get drunk or somethin, partyyyyyyyyyyyy

Answer 11

seriously.. just give it time. it sounds so lame and trite, but time heals everything. it's hard now, but it will get so much easier soon. just try not to think about him and surround yourself with people who care about you and support you. you don't necessarily have to party or try to meet someone or anything like that.. just take it easy and keep yourself occupied with things you like to do. eventually, you'll think about him less. and then, at one point, you wont think about him at all anymore. someone else is bound to come along and fix your heart. someone who will return the love this time. i said i would never get over my old boyfriend.. and then i totally did. and realized what it meant to actually be happy and loved with someone else.