i love my baby's father but he did me wrong? I want to be with him, but why do i feel like the bad guy? he makes me feel like i'm always wrong for everything! What should i do?
2007-03-07 07:21:40 · 6 answers · asked by $Bl@Ck BuTtAfLy$ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For starters you are always going to have some kind of feeling for your baby's father if he is in the baby's life and he is a good father because he is the father of your baby. If he did you wrong that has nothing to do with your child so lets leave the baby out of this. You are feeling like the bad guy because one or the two reasons one you put your foot down and stopped allowing him to make you feel bad (and you feel guilty because you had to go to that extreme) or you feel bad because he has flipped it on you to make it seem like it is your fault. Why have you allowed him to have such power over you? If he feels you are wrong for everything then he is wanting you to change and that is not a good relationship because in wanting to please him you will change so much that you will actually loose yourself. I understand that you love him but sweetie the question is does he love you? Love is accepting that person for who they are and what they can bring to the relationship positivly. Not to mold you into what they want you and take what you have to offer and not give it back. I would rethink about this situation and see if it is the best for you. It is not only you, you are having to think about it is your baby also.
2007-03-07 07:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to forgive someone if they've seriously upset you about something, and it's even more difficult if that person is not compassionate. We get lost in our own little words, so something that has really upset a partner can just seem like they are over exaggerating if you can't put yourself in their place and imagine how they feel.
This might be why your boyfriend is making you feel like the bad guy because he thinks he did nothing wrong, and that you are staying angry at him for no reason. Don't let him carry on thinking this way.
He did wrong to you and you have done nothing. Next time he makes you feel bad, then tell him exactly how you feel.
He probably thinks he is in total control of the relationship - he's done you wrong and you're staying with him - he'll start to think he can get away with anything if you don't say anything to him.
Tell him he has a baby to care for, and if he is going off doing you wrong then he's not going to make a very good father.
I hope you get things sorted.
2007-03-07 07:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by katkitten135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you should take your time to think about the thing that he did wrong. Because sometimes you might be the one who makes him do this bad things. That means that If you just take your time and ask your self the good questions you will find out the reason why you feel bad.
Take care!
2007-03-07 07:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by wjean07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hard to say from what little I know. Some guys use guilt to make themselves feel better. Is he playing some mind games with you? Tell us what he SAYS you're doing wrong, that might clear things up.
2007-03-07 07:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and have a serious talk with him - make sure you guys are on the same page. if it doesn't work , leave him alone, there's always better out there.
2007-03-07 07:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try talking to him about it. there might be something he does wrong, or that you could be wrong. it could be either. but i think only the two of you can prevent anything from happening. just talk to him.
2007-03-07 07:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋