2007-03-07 07:18:56 · 34 answers · asked by laylababy103 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, if it is a different style than the wedding dress you want, you might start to point out different things that wouldn't look right on you as opposed to the dress you were thinking about. You might want to give a thanks and mention that you were thinking of a more modern dress. Or maybe even tell the person that you will take the dress into consideration. That way the offer has been accepted and appreciated but not committed to.
2007-03-07 07:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by ambr95012 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From your question, I'm assuming that they are offering to give you the wedding dress that they wore instead of offering to buy your wedding dress for you.
Basically, tell them that you are flattered that they think so highly of you as to give you something so special and personal as their wedding dress, but that being said, you want your day to be special and unique and that you want a dress that reflects your personality and that hasn't been worn by anyone else before. Tell her that you want people to see you in your dress and not think of her wedding, and that you hope she understands. Maybe you can offer for her to go wedding dress shopping with you so that she feels like she's still involved, or maybe you can use a piece of her wedding dress (if she's comfortable with you cutting off a piece) as part of your bouquet or sewn into the interior of your dress, so you've still incorporated her dress into yours.
She should understand that as a bride you want your own, unique, personal dress. She was a bride once, too!
If she can't understand that, then there's not much you can do besides simply say "No, thank you."
2007-03-07 09:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank the relative profusely. Tell her you think the dress is stunning, but you just recently found one you have your heart set on.
Or that you don't want to damage the dress by altering it.
You can, as another answerer suggested, ask for a small swatch of fabric from the dress and use it to wrap in your bouquet or fashion it as a handkerchief.
Or ask that relative if she has some other momento from her wedding day you can incorporate into your day - jewlery, a watch, etc. or perhaps you have your bouquet made with the same flowers she did?
2007-03-07 07:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That you so much for the offer. It is touching that you would share this special item with me.
However, all of my life I have had a certain picture in my mind of how my dress would look and this unfortunatly is not it.
Honesty is usually the best path.
Or you could use the first paragraph and say that you have already picked out and put down a deposit on a dress.
2007-03-07 07:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that although you're very appreciative, you already have your heart set on another one or you just would prefer to pick your own. The choice of a wedding dress is very personal, and it's something you will keep forever. The person's feelings may be hurt, but unless she's completely selfish, she'll understand. Just remember this when you offer your daughter your wedding dress. ;)
2007-03-07 07:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that you will keep it in mind but you are going to go out & look some more to see all of your options. And then when you find a dress you want say thank you for the offer but I found the perfect dress that fits the way I want it to & it look s really good on me. I hope this helps! Good Luck :)
2007-03-07 08:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could tell them a sweetened-up version of the real reason for saying no -- whatever that is.
Here's one example: Thank you so much for thinking of me, but I'm probably going to be very picky about my wedding dress and I've always dreamed of picking my own custom-made dress from a bridal store . . . .
Or --- thank you so much, but even though you looked beautiful in that gown, I have a different body type and I just wouldn't look my best in that style.
2007-03-07 07:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by Investor 2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can by telling the person that youe spouse prefere a different style of the sewing and make you get a different style to prove your point or tell that person that the offer is good but not in time and that provissoin has already been made for a new one
2007-03-07 07:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by sirwanzam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really beautiful dress and I appreciate the offer but I have already picked out my dream dress and paid the non refundable deposit.
2007-03-07 07:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just as you said - graciously. You just say that you have something different in mind, and thank the person profusely.
2007-03-07 08:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋