Pottytraining a headstrong child...?

Question

I have a 2 year old daughter that shows all signs of pottytraining readiness, but she won't pottytrain. She is very stubborn and headstrong. Any help would be great.

Answer 1

If she's not cooperating.......then she's not ready.

She may be on the verge of being ready, but until she is willing to cooperate, you are fighting a losing battle.

At 2 she's still a little young. I didn't start with mine until they were 2 and a half.

Give her time.

One story I have to add about the 'pretty panties' idea. I tried that with my younger daughter. We bought 5 pairs with her helping pick them out.
Results?
1. she put them on OVER her diaper and pitched a fit if she had to take them off. She was big enough to go get another pair OR a pair of her older sister's. "Now that will fix Mommy's idea!"
2. Since she had several pair, it didn't matter if she got them wet..she would get another pair. When she wanted to change panties on a whim.....she either went to the drawer and got another pair or she wet the ones she had on to force the change.

Moral: Some kids are just not going to play along with the program......lol. I had one!

Answer 2

She's not ready then. It doesn't matter if she is showing all the signs or not. But if you are trying the reward system, the wearing panties, the pottying while sitting her on her potty, she's just not ready if these don't work.

My daughter who is almost 3 now was the same way. Just would not do it at all. She just choose not to. She'd do good for a little bit then just would stop and not do it at all. So we'd quit for a month and try again.

She is now gonna turn 3 in April and we are now getting the potty training down. We have a ways to go because she still won't poop in the potty but its a start. She has few accidents and is still in a diaper at night and we have issues when we leave the house.

All kids potty train at different times. If the child is not wanting to, there is no way to force the child. Disciplining the child will only lead to more accidents and bedwetting that could last a few years. So anybody who tells you its normal for a kid to be potty trained by 18 months doesn't know their facts. Just because thats not average. Avereage is between 2-3. Its when the kid hits 4 that ya got to start worrying.

The pediatrician will be able to help you out if you ask. These were some of the things mine told me.

Answer 3

Don't worry, all on her own time, trust me, with 4 children and over 15 years of potty training 2 year olds, I have had lots of experience with this one! Let her watch you or older siblings, read books about it, talk about it "you know, there is a potty at grandma's house (or where ever you are) wanna see it?", let her throw toilet paper in it to see what happens or sit with a book on it if she wants to. Read lots of stories about the potty. I have never used the videos they have (once upon a potty), but that may work too. Try before a bath, or ask her in the am or after nap when her diaper is dry. When she does go, make a huge deal about it! Tell her that when she is ready she can give her diapers to a baby that you know and point that out to that she is a big girl and big girls wear underwear, go to the store and pick out some fun ones together and then tell her when she goes she can wear them.
My 2 1/2 yr old just finished training and she has had all the signs of being ready for about 8 months. This last time we used M&M's everytime she went for about a week. Expect some accidents after all it is potty learning. No pressure tactics work best, let her think it is her idea, as if you push her too much you will have more of a problem on your hands! Good luck!! :)

Answer 4

She`s not ready..My son was like this. But around two and half, there should be no excuse, you may have to be a " Tough Momma", it`s called Toilet Training for a reason. The child doesn`t get to pick when they are trained, but two and a half is the magic number. I`ve had kids come to me nearly four and not potty trained because their parents can`t tolerate the fight. If all else fails, try another family member, if you can. A child has a hard time resisting another relative or a caregiver. One little boy trained a week with me because, he knew it was part of being a "Big Boy", lol!!!!Oh, another thing, try using Pull Ups at night, ONLY...Regardless of what people say, they are like diapers, they delay potty training progress...Good luck!!

Answer 5

As much as you may not want to hear this... she will do it when she is ready. I *just* recently got my 3 year old trained!! That being said the thing that finally did the trick for us was to put her in underwear during the day... NO diaper NO diaper like training pants! Worked almost over night.. I guess because why bother to go the big potty if you are wearing your own? With normal underwear that option is gone and they go to the potty as they don't want to be wet. Sure you might have to clean up a mess or 2 but that is better than changing diapers all day long!

Answer 6

If she is stubborn then she may not be ready. Don't force her, she will start when she is ready. To help her along, let her see you using the potty (it may be a little embarrassing but it helps because she sees mommy using the potty and she wants to be just like mommy) I would let my little girl into the bathroom when I used the potty and I would sit her on her potty at the same time. It was a little weird at first but it allowed her to become more comfortable with using the potty. This may not be for you but at least it gives you an idea of how to start.

Answer 7

Say's Rules to have a 2 yr old potty trained:
1: Change EVERY dirty diaper in the bathroom. I do this from birth.
2. Throw out the pull ups. Diapers or Panties. Pull ups allow the child to be lazy.
3. Have the child sit on the potty on the hour and every time you go.
4.Praise good potty time.. Make a big ordeal out of accidents, but don't punish.

Answer 8

Only two years old? (!)

My daughter finally started using the potty at three years and three months old. We thought she would never get potty trained. However, after letting her run around the house naked over a weekend, that was all it took. She's five now.

We're having more problems with our three year old son now. He first used the potty six months ago and STILL isn't potty trained! If he's wearing a pull-up, then he will never say a word about using the potty. When we put him in underwear, then it's a 50/50 chance that he'll ask to use the potty or pee in his underwear (and on the floor or the chair he's sitting in). It's been MUCH more frustrating with him than it was with our daughter. He is three years and three months old now and we're still waiting.

If your daughter is only two, you may may have a long wait ahead of you. Don't get in too much of a hurry.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Just take her diaper off first thing in the morning.

Make her help clean up messess.

Give her a Jelleybean every time she actually goes on the pot.

If she has an accident then just say "that's okay, we'll try for a Jelleybean next time"

I agree that a child can be ready and actually "refuse" to do it.

Answer 11

I know exactly what you mean! It took a year to potty train my daughter (from 2 to 3 yrs old). I bought her panties and made her wear them at home during the day and she eventually got the hang of telling me when she had to go. I also rewarded her with stickers of her favorite characters when she told me and went on the potty. Just have alot of patience, and giver her alot of praise and she will do it when she is ready. Good luck!