How do I get over a two year relationship that ended horribly?

Question

my bf told me he hated me and did not care about me anymore. we were dating for 2 yrs. He hurt me so bad. Verbally and physically and I still want him. What is wrong with me?

Why do I feel so horrible?
Me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday. We had been going out for two years. He actually broke up with me, but I knew things were not really working out. The way he did it though was so horrible. We had just come back from the movies and he started smoking weed( I made a remark, like I always do because I hate it.) He told me to leave and to never come back. He told me that all I do is annoy , that he hates me and that all I do is slow him down. I cryed, and he actually laughed at me. That hurt me so much. He told me that he only cares about himself and doesn't need me. Like a asshole I still tried to talk to him and did not leave. He told me he was going to hurt me if I did not leave, but I was crying so much I could not even stand up. I got near him and he hit me in the face. ( he did not hit me hard, but this is not the first time he hit me). He told me he did not want to hurt me, but he felt like he wanted to strangle me because I have been a horrible g

Answer 1

I tried to get over a 5yr relationship with drink, painkillers, anti depressents and casual relationships.... Unfortunatly I had to face reality eventually. It then became a truth to me that only time heals this... Go out and have some fun, lean on friends and family in your time of need.... Just give it time hon,, hope this helps a bit... x

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with you... your just in love with someone who's acting like a jerk now. But trust me no one deserves to be treated that way especially if were in a relationship for 2 years. It definitely easier said than done but try your hardest to get yourself together and move on. You don't need to be around or even near someone who would disrespect you like that. The last thing you need to be thinking is that there's something wrong with you. There's just something strongly wrong with him. Look at this this way he's doing you a favor because he saved you alot more headaches and heartaches for the future. You could of found out he was a jerk 5 years from now.

Answer 3

nothing is wrong with not getting over a guy you loved for two years overnight.

That's why its important that you stay away from guys for a while. You have to heal, and the worst way to heal is to dive into another relationship.

Spend time figuring out why you let men treat you that way, and build yourself up so that no man can ever treat you that way again. It will probably require counseling and hard work. In the meantime, just learn to enjoy being by yourself. It's not that bad, honest.

Answer 4

your just having the break-up blues.Go out to a club with your girls-if your old enough or just remember what he did/said to you every time you think you want him back.He hurt your feeling pretty bad and you shouldn't be giving him another thought why do u want someone that doesn't even care about you?Your just longing for the good/nice him but he told u what's up and you'd be stupid to waste another second thinking about him-move on and find a guy that cares about you and treats you right making you feel needed ,wanted and most special to him!This is what u need not some ex who has completely lost all respect for u by saying and doing what he did. good luck

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with you (keep repeating that). The reason you feel this way is because you just got out of a long term relationship. Give it time, in time the hurt will go away and you will see what a cretin he really is and consider yourself lucky. Do you really want to spend your life with a guy who physically abuses you? There are plenty of men out there who would love to be with you and respect you for who you are.

Answer 6

I went through the same kind of thing. You just have to look at the bad things and not the good. It will make you realize that he did not value you as much as you valued him. In the meantime, do things for yourself. Go out with friends. Keep yourself occupied so you don't think about him and stop all contact with him. In time you will forget about him and find someone much better.

Answer 7

breaking up with someone you love is never easy and never without pain. I think it is okay to calmly ask if he would talk to you about why he made this decision. Assure him that you will handle yourself and not make a scene if he would take the time to explain it to you......as heartbreaking to have another person to break up with you, it doesn't mean your unlovable. I know that you feel somethings wrong wit you......but nothings wrong. Relationships end misteriously.There is a reason and a meaning ....You will know in time, but time itself will choose the moment

Remember you don't choose love......love chooses you!!! Hoped I helped

Answer 8

Your like sometimes a typical woman, you know you can do better but you don't. You tell yourself you are attractive but inside you think otherwise. Move on and get yourself a new boyfriend.

Answer 9

You're addicted to him. It is a very common problem and you shouldn't be with him. I would suggest counseling because these situations are really hard to deal with on your own and your really likely to run back to him.

Answer 10

theres nothing wrong with you because yu weer with him for so long. you gain a lot of feelings for someone being eith them for two years. so dont make yourself feel like you are wrong for still wanting to be with him or that there is something wrong with you because you feel that way.