Ok, so this guy likes me a lot, he had tried to dance with me like 8 times..............than the last time, i just gave up and danced with him, even though i don't like danceing. Than when i was danceing i had my phone out, and he took it for a second and got my number, and he calls me like all the time, and he invited me to like a bowling alley or movie this weekend, i don't know if i like him yet, I'm havinmg a really tough time with guys at this very second. Plus if i go with him to thhis thing my parents would freak, cause they do not apply to their rules me and my sister have to dating a guy. So should i go??? If i should, i want a friend to be there too, cause i think all he's wants to do with me is get me in bed. I'm a teenager, so keep your answers in that perspective please??? What should i do?
2007-03-07 06:43:19 · 25 answers · asked by loverforever150 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea, i can't spell for sh** sorry
2007-03-07 07:23:27 · update #1
Why would you go out with a guy who is so pushy?
It's YOUR life.
He's already gotten you to dance even though you don't like dancing. Why would you voluntarily be alone with him?
Plus, you'd be doing what your parents don't want and subjecting yourself to fear of being caught, etc.
Forget it.
Don't even think about dating anyone again until you meet a guy who YOU like and who seems like a decent friend -- first of all -- and a good person -- kind to everyone, including small children and animals. Then, see if you can get your parents' blessing to go out with the guy as part of a group.
You're moving too fast here and it's not good for you.
Say no to this guy, and if you need to blame your parents, blame them. Or just say, "it's not you -- it's me." (And if he keeps calling you after that, put your dad on the phone.)
2007-03-07 06:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Investor 2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts, honey. You don't care much for this guy, he's proven that he's pushy and doesn't take no for an answer, and your spidey-sense is telling you that he just wants sex. Your parents set up rules for this very situation, so listen to your parent's wisdom and your own gut, which are both telling you not to be alone with this guy. If you have any misgivings at all, don't date him.
Just tell him sorry, it's against your family's rules, and you're really not interested in dating right now anyway. If you think you might want to date him, insist that it be on your terms and in accordance with your parent's rules. Better yet, tell him that your parents have to meet him first.
And FYI, it's spelled "dancing," not "danceing."
2007-03-07 14:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you shouldn't go...HELLO! The first sign is that you're already saying you don't know if you like him yet...chances are you won't like him like that ever. You will feel it when you truly like someone without having to second guess yourself. Secondly, just the thought of knowing that he only wants to go out with you to get you in the bed...HECK NO! In the end you'll be happy you didn't go...you didn't make your parents furious, you won't get pressured into anything you wouldn't want to do, and all in all you won't be with someone who clearly makes you uncomfortable! Don't be scared to say NO...he'll get over it!
2007-03-07 14:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you took out your phone so he could get your number (lets be honest that is what you did), mean that you like him.
Of course he is wants to get you into bed, that is what guys do. Don't be naive and think otherwise, you would only be fooling yourself. However that doesn't mean that something will happen even if you don't want it to. You are in charge of what you do, no one else.
That being said, you sound young and immature. You need to do whatever will not get you into trouble with your parents.
2007-03-07 14:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you shouldn't be dating without your parents permission.
And if you don't want to go on a date, don't go. It's not that hard. It may be hard to say "no" to someone, but if you don't, you're being dishonest. Sure, it might hurt his feelings, but it's better to not confuse him about your feelings. A straight, forward, polite, "no thank you" is much kinder than a mealy mouthed "maybe" when you know he's not the sort you want to be with.
2007-03-07 14:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Monc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are on the right path. Definitely if you are going to go insist on having a friend come along with you.
He sounds a little persistant.
Why do you think that all he wants to do is get you in bed?
But, from experience if your gut feelings says to not go, don't go.
2007-03-07 14:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should abide by your parents rules, they have a good reason for them. I also think you should spend more time on your studies if you questions is any example of the kind of work you do in school. Your on a computer, it has spell check!
2007-03-07 14:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would definatley follow your parents rules. This guy also doesn't seem to know when to give up, which can be charming, however in this case seems a little bizzare. If you really like him, then hang out with him with your parents permission.
2007-03-07 14:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by Seasidelover23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go, but keep a close friend with you, or even have a good guy friend pretend to be with you, that way he might get the message to not get too close and try something... And if He is trying to get you in bed, leave early.
2007-03-07 14:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Redfox 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your parents won't let you date, then just tell him that. You shouldn't be sneaking around behind their backs. Also, just level with him and tell him he calls too often. He can't know if you don't tell him. I'd tell him to back off a little and give you some space, but if you don't dislike him, try hanging with him and see if there is something there. He's probably just young and doesn't know how to date yet.
2007-03-07 14:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋