I've been dating this guy officially for 2 months now. I've known him for six months however. When we met I had a bf at the time but the moment we started talking we clicked. I wasnt quite ready to leave my bf at the time so he started talking to another girl but still remained close to me. This other girl lives almost 3 hrs away from where we stay. He visits the town she lives in from time to time because he has family there. We see e/other every wkend and are always making plans. He hasnt seen this girl in like a month. I know they still talk on the phone and he'll reference her sometimes as "my friend" when we talk about somethings. I know he likes me. But should I be threatened by her? Things are getting pretty steamy between us but I refuse to go any further knowing that hes talking to someone on the side. What do you guys think?
2007-03-07 06:40:50 · 13 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I know she likes him cause shes always sending him kissy stuff on his myspace and things like that and I know they were talking romanticlly. I'm not sure how things are between them now though... and I dont have a boyfriend anymore thx.
2007-03-07 06:48:40 · update #1
Let her be his concern, let him be yours.
2007-03-07 06:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by sweetladytease 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as they're just talking, it's no big deal. You can't control who his friends are, and it's only natural that he would have some female friends. Does he have a history with this girl, relationship-wise? If he does, then I can see where some jealousy would come in. Either way, though, it sounds like they're just friends. Close friends, perhaps, but nothing more.
If it makes you nervous or uncomfortable, try talking to him about it. Make it clear that you trust him, but need some reassurance that you're the only one he really wants to be with. You don't have to worry as long as they're just talking, though. Even if he refers to her a lot, it may just be because they are good friends.
2007-03-07 06:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by SheIsDeath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking? You're upset because he TALKS to someone else? That's too possessive. He has friends, you have friends, these friends may be of the opposite sex - and that's completely normal. He can TALK to anyone he wants to. You can't expect him to cut off all his friendships with women just because he's dating you.
How would you feel if he wanted you to dump YOUR friends? You need to get past this insecurity which has a lot more to do with you and how you feel about yourself than this other woman.
2007-03-07 06:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with him having friends. I know if my girl said I couldn't have any friends that are female I'd lay the logical smack down and if she didn't straighten up I'd probably leave shortly after.
If there's reason to believe he's going past the point of just friends with her then you should do something about it. Just ask him if that's your suspicion.
2007-03-07 06:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a past before you met this fellow and so did he. We cannot be expected to dump all of our previous friends and acquaintances just because we are dating someone new. I hope he would not ask you to give up any of your legitimate friends.
At this point I would not worry about it. Enjoy your new found romance with a light heart, not a worried one.
2007-03-07 06:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him it is bothering me. If you know he cares for you then it shouldn't bother him to stop talking to this other girl. If he refuses to stop talking to this girl then you know he really does have feeling for her over you and you need to move on.Maybe you should go with him some time to meet his family or if you already met visit with them>lol<
2007-03-07 06:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by Rose K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have enough self-confidence in yourself as to not worry about the other girl. Come on...your going to wreck the relationship before it ever gets started.
2007-03-07 06:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Goof-Off's? Don't know a Princess, when they see one. But we know who you are. Walk away? To show your disapproval. If he's in your trance? He'll follow you? And leave her be. Be Sweet. `Cause you're a Princess!!
2007-03-07 06:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a nice guy....that's the problem...he's double minded.....i know these kind of guys a lot....and relationship with them is a disaster...so move on
2007-03-07 06:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would trust him until he gives you a reason not to. if there was something he was trying to hide i don't think he would have told you about the chick anyway so if he say shes a friend take his word for it. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-07 06:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by brown eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he not allowed to have a female friend? How would you like it if he told you that you couldn't have a male friend?
2007-03-07 06:44:14 · answer #11 · answered by Jewel 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋