A few years back my hubby and I found out we can't have children - it was before we got married. I went to my Dr for some advice but agreed to see a stand in as my Dr was on hols at the time. The stand in Dr's 'advice' was to tell me that maybe me and my hubby were not blessed with children because we were unmarried. I mentioned this to a friend who told me he was a known religious man and had had complaints made about his own brand of medical advice before.
What do you think? Was he justified in getting me crying in my car after making me feel an even bigger failure than before (and also very angry) or is there a time to leave your personal beliefs at the door no matter how strongly you feel?
All opinions welcome - religious or otherwise
2007-03-07 06:37:17 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thanks for all the advice to report him - I wish I had if only to stop him doing it to others. But, it's too late now. This happenend years ago and I can't even remember his name.
2007-03-07 07:51:04 · update #1
In the doctor's office a doctor is a doctor, not a spiritual counselor. His behavior was unacceptable. If you and your husband truly want children, then God will give them to you. Please look at Psalm 113:9. God may or may not open up your womb, if a closed womb is the problem, or he may or not cause your husband's seed to flourish, if that be the problem; but, he will give you children in a way that may surprise you. God bless you and I pray that you and your husband shall become parents. Jesus loves you.
2007-03-07 06:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Preacher 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Thats shocking!!! No one has the right to judge anyone in that way. If not being married was the case then why is there so many teenage mums and single mothers from broken relationships and one night stands.
I would certainly take further action on this as the Dr has no right to say this. Im sure even a priest would comment to that degree.
Dont stand for it!
2007-03-07 07:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tabbie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, I am a Christian. This Gentleman was out of line. The name of God should not be used to hurt or judge others based on human suspicion or opinion. Also, it was cruel of him to judge you in such away when you were most vulunerable.
It is true that fornication is not in agreement with scripture, and is a sin. However, unless he is a prophet who speaks for God, or receives revelations directly from the Lord, he has no idea what actions the Lord has taken regarding you. I would report him, as his actions were unprofessional and inappropriate. I'm sure you're not the first patient he has insulted or hurt.
2007-03-07 08:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm a Christian. My "hubby" and I aren't legally married; we couldn't find his x-wife to serve the papers, and then while looking for her, years went by, and we realized that we were already "married". We act like married people, the whole deal, we just haven't paid the $50 fee and got the blood test, thats all.
Anyway, at the age of 44, I gave birth to the most beautiful baby boy, and he's age 7 now, and nothing will ever tear our happy family apart; the legal marriage paper means absolutely nothing. Its whether in the eyes of God you both conduct yourselves as man and wife, thats all.
I'm not taking this off the cuff, I'm a 35 yr student of the Biblical manuscripts, and that mans advice did nothing but attempt to put you in a mental bondage, and you are free in Christ; if someone is spouting off stuff to you that makes you feel anything other than free in Christ, somebody is lying. He is what God calls a "holier than thou fluke". And God says that those people are like a smoke that gets into His nostrils and burns the whole day through;
Do you know what ya do when smoke gets into your nostrils? You get rid of it.
Thats what God says, straight from the original text.
Are you absolutely sure you can't get pregnant?
I would pray for a child; its worked for people before, but if you absolutely can't become pregnant, consider another course.
Oh, and don't listen to any more idiots, ok?
2007-03-07 06:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Entitled to his opinion or not, you went for medical advice and his opinion was unnecessary and unethical and certainly not what he's paid for. If he wants to preach he should become a vicar. You should have made a complaint and kicked up a huge fuss.
There's many reasons why people can't have children but it has nothing to do with any god, that attitude is just daft no matter how comforting it may be to childless people.
2007-03-07 06:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Divine ♥ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO!! yes he is entitled to his opinion but that is Not the professional approach and dont worry hun about that insensitive dr.. u shud report it and im christian.. it dusnt work that way dont worry ur not being punished.. where theres a will theres a way OR mayb God has a greater purpose for u.. mayb theres a child out there who needs u.. u can always make a difference :)
2007-03-07 06:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by *PYT* 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow... he just busted his oath... unethical behavior, one of the reasons why I'm seriously considering NOT returning to nursing. I'd file a complaint (it's within your rights as a patient) and find another doc. Don't blame yourself, you're already on a rollercoaster of pain. Take some time and find ways to relax, like yoga or meditation or something that you like that works... and keep questioning the answers and find your way as it works for you.
I wish you happiness...
_()_
2007-03-07 06:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by vinslave 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That doctor's an idiot. He had no right to say what he said. And yes sometimes it's best to leave certain things at the door such as your personal problems and religious or non reliigous beliefs at the door as that wasn't very professional of that doctor to get into his personal views.
2007-03-07 06:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
His opinion was obviously based on his personal (religious?) stance rather than his medical expertise.
You may have expected such comment from a church elder, but not from a doctor, and as the medical viewpoint would not reflect his opinion, I would have formally complained to the practice and the GMC if I were in your position.
2007-03-07 06:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by annie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Gosh, what an awful thing for you to have heard. His job as a professional Doctor is to treat and diagnose you on your health not your faith, what you do and believe in should be irrelevent to him.
Overly staunch religious people feel it necessary to push their own thoughts and ideas and expect others to live their life the way they are told to by these ignoramouses. It would suit them better if they concentrated on making sure they themselves are living a decent Christian life.
2007-03-07 06:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by 40inApril 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He should lose his medical license over that. Obviously he's only interested in making his patients feel worse.
He had no right to say what he did. A doctor is supposed to treat anyone, in any way, without judgement. Dr's take a vow to heal any wound and not to hurt people.
2007-03-07 06:42:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋