I was just propossed to last night and I never gave him my answer. I want to say yes but I'm scared of commitment. I don't know. I was going to say that we go on a break but I'm afraid that I really do love him and then he finds someone else. Then I'm left in the dark again.... What should I do? Forget him and find someone else? Or say yes and marry him?
2007-03-07 06:32:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like you need a long engagement and maybe some couples counciling before you wed. You might even go have counciling on your own with your pastor to discuss you fears with an outside person. be honest and tell him you are afraid and you do not want to say no to his proposal but you want to be 100% sure before you commit.
2007-03-07 06:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by misse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and stand your ground.
If your not ready fine wait date more, take separate trips, or both of you go out alone once a week see how you feel about each other than. But to marry him so no one else gets him or so you wont be alone is crap. What happens after your married and the real mister right swings by? How do you know if you can be there for him when thing get rough(and they will sooner or later) if you don't even know if you can be there for your self?
2007-03-07 14:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by wiggliy66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to say that marriage is easy, but it isn't. Only you and just you can decide if this man is for you. If you have fear of commitment than there must be something there that's giving you doubts, because love has no questions and no doubts and no hesitations. Think about why you're hesitating.
In the end your heart will tell you what to do...
Good luck....
2007-03-07 14:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by inland102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like you are not ready for a commitment. If you really wanted to get married and loved him then you would have said yes right away. By not saying yes immediately it seems like you have doubts in the relationship.
2007-03-07 14:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Qu'est ce que tu penses? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say are you ready? Then if you are say yes. If not then just tell him how you feel. I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend. But we both wanna get married but some of the things we do mess it up. Like in my head he is ready but I KNOW that he isn’t. Lol you just got to get the feeling. And it depends how old you are. If you wanna be with him forever you’ll know/. If you its going to get boring waking up to him and going to sleep with him…..but if that is what makes you happy then go for it. At least your happy.
GOOD LUCK!!
<33 ~Angel Face~
2007-03-07 14:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by ~Angel Face~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin this isn't some easy decision a bunch of on line people can answer for you. You need to look deep down inside. Every one is scared of commitment on some level. Do you love this person? And can you see yourself with them in 50 years? those are the questions you need to ask yourself.
2007-03-07 14:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Varacha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question I would ask myself is, do I want this man to be my husband? If I have to introduce him as my husband, am I ok with that? If you cringe inside, then don't marry him.
Along the same line, do you want to be his wife? If he were to introduce you as his wife, would you cringe?
Another question to ask yourself...When I'm 80 and sitting in a rocking chair looking back on my life, what do I think I would feel about having committed my life to this guy?
2007-03-07 14:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him deep down really love him marry him cus if you just sit around and say what if what if you are never truly gonna be happy life is short to worry all the time take a chance and enjoy the ride
2007-03-07 14:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by poohbear27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first thought usually is the best, in that you didn't say yes, so this tells me you are not ready, just tell him this and let the chips fall wher they may. The fact that you are unsure tells me that you should stick to your guns, marriage is for life or it should be...
2007-03-07 14:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't say yes. You obviously are not ready for a committment yet. You sound very insecure about things. Good luck to you.
2007-03-07 14:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋