My friend wants to have sex?

Question

I have a friend who just turned 17, that up until now wnated to wait on sex until she was married and felt really strong about it. Well she got her first boyfriend this past year, who's she's been dating about a month I'm guessing (he never asked her out specifically) and he's a year and half younger than her. All of a sudden she wants to have sex with him, which from the first time they hung out he was trying to "do stuff" with her. I really don't know what to do, of course she's going to have sex if she wants to and I've told her to be safe, but I really think she is just jumping into this and going to regret it. Is there anything I can do?

Lol just to add since I saw some answers, I'm not jealous. I'm almost 17 and I have a 19 year old boyfriend I've been dating over a year now, I was like her and wanted to wait and we;ve done some things but still no sex. So that's why I'm worried about her, I know it's been hard when you want to, but I think right now it's healthiest not to have sex and establish a relationship first.

Answer 1

Kate,
I think it's great that you are concerned about your friend. Of course, you're right: she will do what she wants to (which is why it's good you've encouraged her to be safe.)

If you're worried, all you can do is tell her the truth: that you care about her and worry that she might be rushing it and then regret it later. Whatever you tell her, remind her that you care and that you're her friend and support her no matter what.

It sounds as if you've got a good head on your shoulders, she's lucky to have you as a friend.

Answer 2

No, Unfortunately not hun!


I know it puts you in a difficult position as a friend who cares...
But in all honesty, It's her choice, It's her will, It's her life.
You are a great part of her life, But you are not exactly the person
who should be running her life, and making her decisions for her.
It would be wrong for that to happen, Mostly because she is
her own unique person just as well as you are!

If she wishes do have sex with him,
Then I guess it's her choice!
Just stick with her through the end of time...
She may later regret having sex with him...
But that's something she will just have to experience :)
It's all a part of the process. All a part of her process.


Just be sure to be there for her,
And don't be afraid to express your opinions to her.
Tell her the truth about your outlook upon her situation with
her new boyfriend. Tell her that you are a little concerned about it
but no matter what you love her and your always willing to be a loyal friend!

:)


I hope I helped a little,
If you have any more questions...
Don't hesitate in contacting me!
I'm always happy to voice my opinions
or at least try to shed some new light upon certain subjects!



Good luck!

Xo

Answer 3

Take this from a woman who is now almost 30, but was at one time 17. Sex with boys is not all it's cracked up to be. It should be saved for someone you really love, and who loves you. All that boy is thinking about is getting some, and he'll tell your friend whatever he has to to get it. She should wait until she's older and is having a serious relationship with a MAN. This is coming from personal experience. She shouldn't waste something so wonderful on a boy that won't know what to do with it.

Answer 4

nicely yea, he's a guy. U could take a sturdy seem at your existence & the place u pick it headed too. whilst u get to the point of marriage and so on. At that element the previous will all develop into so significant. Why, i don't be attentive to different then it is the way its continuously been. Why commit whilst the candies R loose. in simple terms having intercourse because of the fact u pick a buddy nicely it would not decrease the mustard. there's a huge team of adult males status in line desiring to be friends. If its authentic it authentic & whether it particularly is no longer it particularly is no longer. A rose is a rose is a rose and so on... U'r buddy isn't who he replaced into at a element in time. He has replaced & u pick issues to be the way they have been. of course they could never be like that lower back. get excitement from....

Answer 5

I think everyone thinks that way at first, I'm going to wait. Then one day you just decide you want to do it. Then you do. The only really regretable things would involve being unsafe. She should get on birth control before she has sex and of course use a condom. But it's her choice just as it's your's.

Answer 6

Of course, she wants to have sex. She's 17 and her body is maturing. I applaud her for not using sex to trap some guy into marrying her only to find out later he only married her for the sex.

Answer 7

The most you could do is maybe sit her down and talk to her about it, make sure she's doing something she really wants. But ultimately, it is her decision, and you really can't get involved. If you really feel strongly compelled to do something, get a chance to talk to her and ask her if she's sure this is something she wants to do, in spite of her previous promises. But if she wants to go through with it, you can't change her mind--it's her life, and even if you feel like she's making a mistake, you can't prevent her from doing so. If it is a mistake, she will learn.

Answer 8

No, thats something she has to mess up in order to learn, don't have sex when you've just met.
If you do do something, she'll accuse you of being jealous and other things like that.

Answer 9

i'd show her this. it sounds like she's only trying to have sex to prove to her bf she's 'cool' or something. remind her that a few months ago she'd never consider betraying her morals like that, but unfortunately at the end of the day she'll have to make her own choice

Answer 10

Yeah be there for her when she gets knocked up by her 15 year old boyfriend.