im in a fresh relationship but im scared of cheating.
i cant help thinking about cheating.
ive always cheated on my 'boyfriends' before.
and i didnt like anyone for ages, but then all at once i liked this guy, but now i start feeling things for alot of people. even people that i dont know. i really dont understand it.
& im not even sure if i like my boyfriend.
i know i like him but he's just, i dont know.
i guess, not what i expected him to be.
Signed,
CONFUSED.
2007-03-07 06:13:44 · 14 answers · asked by blehhtink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when im wit my boyfriend i feel very happy but when im away i dont feel that happy.
i just am so confused.
aarrgh
2007-03-07 06:23:32 · update #1
i am bisexual.
& a female.
2007-03-07 06:24:46 · update #2
Well cheating is always a difficult thing to contemplate. Why do some do it and others avoid at the risk of death. Statistics tell us that about 50% of all men have cheated and about 63% of all women, at some point during their life. I think that indicates human nature, not sin or weakness, so do what you want, but i don't ultimately think its the end of the world should either party have a little sex on the side.
2007-03-10 10:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all cheating isn't some uncontrollable reaction to an attrative person. It's when someone gives in to the physical portion of attraction. If you're already "feeling things" for A LOT of people --- is it that you're attracted to other people? I mean that's normal no one can pass up acknowledging a good looking person.
I'm thinking this fresh relationship was a mistake. Relationships are no piece of cake, people ought not to engage in them unless they have an idea of what they're getting into. It's difficult at times, wonderful at times, much like any other type of relationship in your life (mother-daughter, friendships etc). You should never expect anything......just be willing to work on it and respect the person that you're with. Looks like you see yourself giving into your physical desires.....Leave the guy alone and find out what you want
2007-03-07 14:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have unresolved issues with yourself and it comes out in your relationships with men. Until you find out what the cause of this emptiness that you feel that makes you want to cheat to fill that need you will always find urself wanting to cheat and finding yourself not pleased in your relationships. I suggest seeking some therapy for this because it will be difficult to resolve on your own but this needs to come from within you knowing that there is something wrong and that you would like to fix it.
The fact that you posted that you are in a relationship and are thinking about cheating on him is telling me that you know its wrong and that you are looking for answers to help figure out what the issue is. It could be anything most cases are from an male figure in your life that has caused this where at first you place men on a pedestal and then later to find out once you get close to them that they have flaws too. Like i said you need to sit down with a therapist and figure out what is causing this problem, you will surprised the things you find out about yourself that you were blocking out.
good luck and i wish you all the best.
2007-03-07 14:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by ☆Ele☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitely need to get out of this relationship. If the relationship is fresh and you are already thinking about cheating then you are not happy. Just tell him that you want to be friends for now until you can see for sure what it is you are exactly looking for. My advice is to just play the field for now until you are ready for a honest relationship.
2007-03-07 14:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with the thought of being in relationships, even when they don't have any real substance. My suggestion; tell the guy you are with now, that you think he's a good guy, but you don't think you are ready for a relationship right now. And be by yourself for about a year. Learn who you are truthfully, who you are. And then and only then will you know what you want in a relationship.
2007-03-07 14:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you can think about is cheating on your bf and your not sure you even like him let him go. He should not get his feeling hurt because you can't say with one person. The best thing for you to do is to just date and stay away from relationships until you can get your crap together.
2007-03-07 14:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Kitty knows it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have quite a problem. I can't quite understand it - since I have NEVER cheated on anyone nor have I ever even been tempted to cheat. You need get some self control and learn to be faithful or don't get into releationships.
2007-03-07 14:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only people who are unhappy cheat.......you need to be happy with who you are before you will stop this behavior..forgive yourself for all the wrongs you believe you have done and work on being a good person......
2007-03-07 14:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by connie b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you know what you want....I would get out of the relationship until you do otherwise one of you will end up getting hurt.
2007-03-07 14:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lucky Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently you cant handle a serious relationship cuz it sounds like you always screw them up so get out of it and dont hurt anymore guys.
2007-03-07 14:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋