Why do i attract guys who??

Question

Have the bad boy/smart ***/ overly confident complex??I am nice, polite, and friendly to everyone.My only flaws are that i am shy and quiet with only a small group of friends.I dont get it?These guys are the only ones that approach me always seem to be different versions of the same guy? I get described as pretty or cute so i dont think i am ugly so why dont the nice guys ask me out?

I have tried going up to the nice guys but always end up being friends and like a little sister to them!I am only 18 !

Answer 1

Nice guy they tend to be more shy just like you, maybe if you see one you can help by starting the conversation, show them you interested, hope that help good luck!


Do you like anyone (your nice friends or big brothers)? Ask him to go on a date, See what happen that way you know if he shy or not interested.

Answer 2

This is good that you realize this now. They approach you because the signal you are sending is you are a good girl. That's great but, you also like guys that are confident and out going. If you want to different type of guy then you need to be a little more out going in a positive way. The bad boys grow up to be a problem and the nerds grow up to earn a very nice living.

Answer 3

Hi Kristen,

Maybe it's because they are not sure how to take you as you are shy... They would not want to offend you and most probably think you like the tough type of guys as that is what is surrounding you...

Sometimes it is the silent messages that we give out un-intentionally...Some people may look at you and say that you must be kind of a wild girl as that is the message that they are receiving by you being around the type of people that you are...It's OK to hang with these people, but if we want to attract something more, we first need to show ourselves what we have to offer someone like that too..

You are a nice, respectful, caring and all that, then you should be able to meet someone nice like that and don't be shy to let your personality show...I am very sure that it is just as beautiful as you...Have confidence and most of all have fun with it...

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Here is a little test for you to take, it will open your eyes wide open. Make a list of every boyfriend, close relationship you have had since junior high. Write every single guy/person down, write what attracted you to them, then in the next column, write what the cause of the breakup was. You will see a pattern, you will see why these attractions are happening, and now you can make changes in your life, to attract the people you want in your life. I didn this after once again finding myself in a relationship that had problems. I sought some counseling for myself, and the counselor had me do this, I was very surprised at what I saw. I stil feel attracted to the "bad boy", but I never go out with them now.

Answer 5

Pretty much all women are attracted to the Bad Boys. But they either don't marry them, or do and get divorced. Why? Cuz they married a Bad Boy, duh! Here is the answer: Become pro-active with your love life. Date as many men as possible. flirt with them, sign up for dating sites, let friends know you're in the market for a relationship. Date, date, date! You will find it is easier to get rid of the losers, and have a full schedule with the best catches. By the way, Bad Boys aren't attracted to you. They are attracted to everybody. They hit on anything that moves because the law of averages is on their side.

Signed, a former Bad Boy who finally wised up and settled down with a Great Gal.


P.S. I see you edited your comment. You are only 18. You are not ready to settle down. So date, date, date! That doesn't mean sex! Go out and have fun! Becoming friends with a guy is fine. Now date some other guys! Trust me, you'll have this down in the next few years. Don't settle for less than you deserve! Date, date, date, date, date!!!!!

Answer 6

You are probably really hott. The only guys who will approach you are the overly confident ones. Nice guys who aren't overly confident tend to aim for the more on there so called level of girl. You will more than likely have to distinguish a specific guy that you know is the type of guy you want to date and make the first move.

Answer 7

it's simple beacuse the type of guy that doesnt know you and that will come up to a random girl and start hitting on her are the bad boy/smart ***/ overly confident complex type the nice guys dont do that as they are like you shy quite and keep to a small group of freinds you need to start contact in a "nice" guy your intrested in i mean think about it who really goes around being like hey cutey or how you don' thats really not that cool i mean it is if your in to that whole cheesey b.s.

Answer 8

well I don't know what to say but maybe it's cause your to nice and do you look like a thug cause when I used to dress like a thug all through high school thats all that I got but ummmm. maybe you should dress up or something but hey Im not saying that you can't dress the way you want to and find nice guys cause when I would dress like a thug I still pulled the nice ones and how old are these guys cause if they are older they probly think that they still have a chance of getting into trouble!!!


Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

They are attracted to you because they feel they can dominate, intimidate and push you aruond. They get their self worth out of doing such.

There's nothing wrong with you. Just keep sending these little boys packing back to their mommy's when they come sniffing around. You're better off.

Answer 10

i have that same problem....but mine that i attract are either overweight, just downright ugly or old....but i did notice that if i am attracted to someone i dont pay that much attention to them (kinda weird but true). I work with the public and i see a lot of people day in day out and i find myself being comfortable talking to someone that i am not interested in a lot easier than talking to someone that i am attracted to.