Me and my ex are good friends. We started off as friends, then dated. Then broke up. Now ten years later. We still have conversations about life, and give each other great advice on life, and the opposite sex. I give him tips to romance his girl, and he helps me understand men, and their goofy ways.
2007-03-07 06:07:53 · 14 answers · asked by questions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm no 100% positive about that. I think you should ask your husband how he feels. Tell your husband what you wrote here and reassure him this ex is no threat to your marriage. Have you husband meet the ex and actually you, your husband and your ex and the ex's girlfriend should do some activities together: movies, dinner, etc... when your husband sees your ex is truly a platonic relationship, he'll less likely have a problem with it once he gets to know your ex. Oh, and stop reffering to him as "your ex" and start reffering to him as "your FRIEND".
2007-03-07 06:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by f w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gwen Stefani - Cool Lyrics
It's hard to remember how it felt before
Now I found the love of my life...
Passes things get more comfortable
Everything is going right
And after all the obstacles
It's good to see you now with someone else
And it's such a miracle that you and me are still good
friends
After all that we've been through
I know we're cool
We used to think it was impossible
Now you call me by my new last name
Memories seem like so long ago
Time always kills the pain
Remember Harbor Boulevard
The dreaming days where the mess was made
Look how all the kids have grown
We have changed but we're still the same
After all that we've been through
I know we're cool
And I'll be happy for you
If you can be happy for me
Circles and triangles, and now we're hangin' out with your new
girlfriend
So far from where we've been
I know we're cool
2007-03-07 06:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by littlelady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the way you worded your question, I am assuming this is an ex-boyfriend and not an ex-husband...
If that is the case, then I can totally relate to you! I dated a guy many years ago. We broke up (badly!) and it took us *YEARS* to rebuild our friendship, but when we finally did, it became a pretty solid friendship.
When I started dating my now-husband, I introduced them. My husband knew right from the start that we used to date, and that we were just friends. I didn't bother trying to hide it from him - there was no point.
And you know what? They're now great friends. We all get together regularly and go to baseball games, or just out for drinks & dinner. I'm probably one of the few girls out there who can say her ex-boyfriend was guest at her husband's stag AND at her wedding. And we're still great friends to this day.
What I'm trying to say is that yes, you can be friends. As long as you know your intentions, and you are honest with yourself, your partner and your friend, there's no reason why not!
2007-03-07 07:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be good for you but not going to help your marriage. It's nice to have a mans point of view but, this is someone you were in a relationship with. I do not think you would appreciate your husband doing this. Also most men are not friends with a woman unless they are looking for more then that especially if they are in a relationship.
2007-03-07 06:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a very good relationship with this man. As long as you don't have any romantic feelings for him, I don't see a problem.
Also, as long as your husband is comfortable with the idea. Not saying he can control who you're friends with, but it's nice to consider his feelings. If my bf was still friends with his ex's, i wouldn't be happy, especially if they were the ones he's been intimate with. The thought of that makes me sick to my stomach. I trust my bf with my life, but I just don't feel comfortable with that idea. Hope this helps! (Plus, your relationship was 10 years ago. That's way different than a year or two)
Good Luck!
2007-03-07 06:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by dks64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think it is possible to be friends, but both parties need to understand the past is the past. I would not reccomend talking to the person everyday as it can stir up old memories and what not. Plus, once you find "the one" it can be difficult to have an ex as a friend especially if you all were intimite.
2007-03-07 06:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by newsgal03 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-29 09:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible to stay in touch with a former love interest even when you're married. Just don't overdo it. I speak with my former spouse every so often (6 years after our divorce); my husband knows about it, and doesn't have a problem with it. We don't "hang out" together or anything, but we do talk once or twice a month.
2007-03-07 06:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible, as long as your other half is okay with it, because in a marriage you have to keep home happy. Also because its you ex you have to know what topics can be discussed and what topics cant. You have to have self control, because you are married now, so there is no turning back.
2007-03-07 06:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great to still be friends. I would say it would be absolutely necessary if there were children involved but that's not the case.
It really depends on your mate though.Your partner may feel threatened if you & this friend were intimate. And risking hurting your partner is not worth ANY friendship.
2007-03-07 06:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋