Has anyone else never been satisfied with life?

Question

No matter what i do or what happens to me nothing seems to make me happy for long. I never get excited about anything, i cannot remember anything in my life which has really made me happy, i think winning the lottery would but then i think 'what would i do with the money?'. Does anyone else feel this way? Do your workmates think you are boring and always seem to go out with each other for lunch and text each other but never include you, do your friends not get in touch often (if you have any real friends!)
I wonder if i don't try hard enough in life or am i just missing something in my brain?
Serious answers please i know some of you would love to take the **** and cannot understand but there must be others out there who do.

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you are looking for a main purpose in your life & not that you are depressed.

some people find their purpose in having kids, others in making art. others in the myriad of different things.

you have to find yours.

if you could right now be doing something and really enjoying it, enough to make it regular...what would that thing be?

Answer 2

I've never found fun or happiness comes easily.
It's certainly not my default setting (I've been told I think too much, so that may be it.) but I don't get classed as boring. Odd, but not boring.

It can be something in the brain wiring or chemistry.
There is a condition called anhedonia, where the experience of pleasure is reduced or absent.

It took me years and years to track my basic disconnect with the world, the one that made me relate to Spock's line "are we having fun yet?"
At the age of 48 I finally got a diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome. All this time, I've just been on the wrong planet. No wonder I didn't find parties fun, or find people who wanted to share the things I found interesting in the world... A successful professional career, but few friends.

Answer 3

Personality disorders, behavioural abnormality, maladaptive defenses is seen in people who convince themselves that their happiness will be achieved through material things or if they compete to have what their friends have. Even though they may not realise it for a while they could be living a lie for years and this is when they begin to feel unhappy. True happiness I have learned is found in the appreciation of the little things like "taking the time to really look at the blue sky and breath the sun rays for a long moment; cuddling in bed for an extra 5 minutes in the morning; eating your favorite desert etc... And, not necessarily forcing happiness where there aren't any. To begin the process of finding ones own goodness, meditation and chakra cleansing is recommended. Those who have failed to ever perform a cleansing are still filled with the grey matter that will linger within them forever, and those who refuse to believe that behavioural therapy takes part in all reinvention effort toward the self will not ever know true happiness, or true health.

Answer 4

Everything comes too easy these days. If we want something we just go and get it. Children have loads of toys, so a new toy doesn't give them a thrill. It's the same with adults.

Try to find somebody who is less fortunate than you (there is always someone), and do something to make their day....whether it's helping an old lady with her shopping, or chatting to someone who people usually ignore. Giving will make you feel better about yourself, and make you feel that you are lucky.

Another way to feel happy is physical exercise. Go for a long brisk walk in the country or along a beach. It will make you feel invigorated and "alive"

I hope something here helps.

Answer 5

You sound clinically depressed.
That said, who says we are meant to be happy and satisfied all the time? It is an unrealistic expectation foisted upon us by what I call the 'dissatisfaction engineers'. These are people like advertisers and suchlike who portray a vision of life free from pain, doubt and awkwardness.

Embrace your dissatisfaction: it will be your liberation.

Answer 6

to say the truth im hardly happy, i dont have any mates i keep mysen to mysen, i will be happy if i won a hell of alot of money, england is very rough and morbid thats one of the reasons im like this, ive not had a girl for 3 years and im 20. yeah i know what its like it sucks doesnt it.

Answer 7

Pray for God to help you.. He helps me all the time.. I'm sad most of the time.. I have a Good husband, Healthy Kids, 2 Grandbabys.. It is called depression.. Go to Dr. to see what he can give you.. Pray for Gods will.. God bless you.. Don't give up.. I will pray for you now.. Take care.

Answer 8

Do you want to understand one of the factors common Law of attractionproduct does not work for lots of people?Think it like a diet plan. If you wish to drop weight and you work hard to lose it

Answer 9

Last week i felt exactly the same as you, still the people around me are all like that, they never include me and i couldn't feel happiness through anything for too long and i have been on anti-depressants and spoken to a therapist and they have helped very slightly but seeking therapy has highlighted what is most painful about my life and mostly my upbringing and past in general.

However i had an epiphany at the weekend and have found the key to my future happiness. I doubt my solution will be anywhere near to yours but you need to find it and i know its difficult i know exactly how you feel. You feel like nothing you do makes a difference and after so many failed attempts at trying to fit in, why should you make all the effort? You need to forget about all that, you need to ignore the people around you, especially those that are closest to you as they are causing the worst effect. They see you as you are and what you appear to do and they won't help you break that they will continue to treat you in that way and when you are around them you won't feel like breaking out of your shell as the reactions will be too severe. I'm sure in your heart you wish to do it but just don't know how.

Don't worry i'm not going to try and sell you a self help book or anything but there is something holding you back and you need to start afresh and distance yourself from people around you in a positive sense, don't ignore them but don't let their opinions make you who you are, you need to do it yourself and change how they see you and they can;t do it so don't sit there and hope for a miracle to come.

I doubt i am being much help but for me, the worst part of my life is that i haven't had a partner in several long years and i'm only 20 so its practcally my whole life i have felt empty and i don't get anything from my friends or family that make me feel wanted so i have now distanced myself from them and want to be different and last week i have found my solution. This might sound crazy but i am going to pay for the things that i need and i am going to hire an escort at the weekend, i had never dreamed of doing this before as i wanted my first time to be special and mean something but it still can do with the first time with the perfect partner when i find her. Until then though i need to get rid of my feelings of emptyness and reset my body to feel normal before i can do that and i am going to lose my virginity to an escort, an extremely beautiful one that i have picked out and i feel better already just thinking about it, my week so far has felt perfect and i feel such a great weight lifted off of me and i know that the night will be special but for a completely different reason and i am already getting back the confidence i used to have all those years ago that seems like a distant memory but i am going to do it.

The point of my story is that there is always hope, even if you end up crying yourself to sleep as i have done on many occasions, don't do anything negative to yourself, when you can believe in yourself, you can overcome anything and the energy tht surrounds you will attract others who will want to share in your happiness and i don't know exactly what is going to happen but i'm just so happy that i have something to aim for now and i hope you can find what you need to make you feel better and make the most of life because we only get one shot at it and nobody wants to have a miserable one.

Good luck and contact me if you don't think i'm crazy and would like someone to talk to, i know i would.

Answer 10

I agree with you, life has turned to dust and ashes, the world is miserable, we are surrounded by a nothingness, a void!