My boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 1/2 yrs.At first his best friend would get jealuos cause they didnt hang out as much now he had a girlfriend and didnt even like my boyfriend talking about me around him.So now the tables have turned.He hangs with his friend every tue.and they lift every night together then hang out.one of the reasons he doesnt know he wants to marry me is b.c he'll see his friend less.On the holidays he goes to his family and i go with him.then he goes to his best friends family while i go to mine alone.then he meets me at mine later.I dont like the idea in the future of us going seprate ways every holiday.they have only been close for the past yr.His friend asked him to go on a cruise with him knowing my boyfriend needs to buy a new car cause he wrecked his and that he is only a college student.But my boyfriend didnt say no so hes going.He always listens to what his friend says but when i know what his friend said is wrong hell still believe his bud over me
2007-03-07 05:57:06 · 20 answers · asked by kay h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a real gay boy (poof). I'd be inclined to dump him.
2007-03-07 06:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by freddy the newf 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he is enjoying the single life too much to stop being a lad. You could try this, get out with your own girl friends more, dont be so available to him. Make plans and holidays without him, he is still young and you may end u together when the time is right but right now he is obviously too young to settle down. Give him some space and dont bawl him out about being with his friend one night a week, if you two are meant to be together you will bebut if you moan and nag you will drive him away. Fill your ownlifewith newthings and people then you wontbeso osessed with being with him, and who knows you might meet someone else! Good luck be patient and see what happens, marying at this stage is not such a great idea if he is swanning off on a singles cruise i'd bea little less inclined to trust his motives for being with you at all. Be careful you could be about to be dumped but it may be a good thing. You cant and should'nttry to stop anyonefom having friends, he will respect you moreif you trust him. Talk to him or just get busy with your own life.
2007-03-07 06:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A d you want to get back with him because...........why? He clearly isn't as involved in the relationship as you, he has never been to your family get together's, that is a big red flag right there. Why doesn't he want to meet the family, I would say because he doesn't feel he has a future with you, so why waste time doing something I don't want to do. I think it's time for you to move on. People deserved to feel loved and accepted in a relationship, if they are not, then maybe that relationship isn't for them afterall. I think he has made it clear where his priorities are, you're not near the top, so you need to get out of there. When in a relationship, you and your mate should hold eachother at the top of the priorities, if you find you are lower down the ladder, do not accept that, you are worth more. Try being alone for awhile, enjoy your independence, and learn ways not to attract selfish people. Good luck.
2007-03-07 06:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's trying to tell you something. I say you should start telling him a thing or two. If that doesn't solve the problem, give him a one-way ticket back up his friends' butts. Your time is one of the only things you will own out right, you should spend it however and WITH whomever you want. You shouldn't have to practically beg him to spend time with you. Good thing he's letting you know where his priorities lie now. And its probably just the tip of the iceberg.
2007-03-07 06:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by toyanlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys need a good guy friends as they know that they will be there for them for ever. my bf was the same but i can understand where you are coming from so what i did was i tried to form a close bond with the guy friend and then i started to hang out with them i knew they wouldnt like it so i told my boyfriend that i would let them have there guy time together if i could have more alone time and more attention from him. believe me it worked they only see each other 4 a few hours during the week n then go out 1 night at the weekend n im with my gal pals!
2007-03-07 06:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by nicoley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are the one with the problem. You have been dating you re boyfriend for eighteen months. How long has he known his mate, i would bet it is longer than eighteen months they probably went to school together had their first drink together etc if you push too hard you may end up losing be patient and it will all come out in the wash and everything will be hunky dory.
2007-03-07 06:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bertie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After awhile men get to where they are comfortable in a relationship and they feel the need to spend time with the guys because they have been neglecting their friends to spend time with you. Don't nag on him, just tell him that you don't like how you don't spend the holidays together etc. You can't always have him to yourself, let the man breathe a little.
2007-03-07 06:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to have a discussion with your boyfriend. Tell him that you don't mind him hanging out with his friend but that you feel like the two of you don't spend enough time together. If he doesn't make any changes to include you more then I think it is time to move on. Good Luck!
2007-03-07 06:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he favors his buddy over u, better let him go to his friend then...he doesnt need a gf like u...give him an ultimatum and tell him if he wants his friend, he can keep that friend..see if they'll be happy for long...soon, his friend will be different wen he has a gf of his own and he'll be left in the rut...this guy isnt worth it but u can try
2007-03-07 06:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by mitval 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do but leave him to his buddies and go find you someone that wants to be with you. You are not gonna change him so if you stick with him be prepared to have his buds come first, second and maybe you can be third, if you want to put up with that.
2007-03-07 06:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU NEED TO BE VERY GENTLE ABOUT THIS. ALL YOU CAN REALLY DO IS TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT. WHEN STUFF BLOWS UP IN HIS FACE THEN YOU CAN SAY I TOLD YOU SO. BUT YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET ANY WHERE IF YOU TRY TO SLIP THEM UP. THE BF WILL MESS UP. ESPECIALLY IF HE IS JEALOUS OF YOU. AS YOUR RELATIONSHIP GOES ON HE WILL FEEL YOU MORE AND WANT TO BE WITH YOU MORE. HAVE YOU TRYED TALKING TO HIM ABOUT WANTING HIM TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOU?? GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-07 06:03:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋