Being alone?

Question

Why is it some people just can't be alone? My ex and I were together 14 years. We broke up for a year and a half. Got back together for a year. He had a girlfriend for that whole year and a half. Left her to come back to me and our kids. Well, on new years eve he broke up with me saying that he wanted to be by himself for a while. He wanted to be free to due what ever he wanted. Two months later he is back with that women. He just can't ever be by himself. Do you think that is true more of men then women? And how can some people just move to someone else like it is no big deal?

Answer 1

My experience in relationships has told me that anytime someone breaks-up under the guise that they "need some time alone" or some other such excuse, is that they already have someone else that they would rather be with in a relationship. People rarely break-up to be alone.

Answer 2

I think you'll find this behaviour more so in women than in men because women are more about the actual relationships and having someone to call theirs. Some people are just afraid to be a lone and never really developed a sense of independence. The way I see it if someone can move to someone else or between two people like it's nothing than there's no real emotion in the relationship that they have it's just more of being with one or the other to avoid being alone. Or I could be wrong and it's the opposite when they care for each person immensely, but one has something about them that the other lacks and vice versa.

Answer 3

I think both of you women give him what he needs at the moment...you probably have the good conversations with him and she has something that you don't have and that he likes (do you understand)...Yes there are some people who just have to have someone all the time...My friend told me that it was a defense mechanism, to show that women that you didn't mean anything to him...come on now, 14 years? you can't tell me that you don't have a place in his heart...


But when you think about it being with that other woman is something new and refreshing...something other than that last 14 years...

Answer 4

I was in and out of a bad 6 year relationship, but when we would break up, I still always had someone. It had more to do with the fact that I was afraid to be alone than it did that I went from person to person. I felt like I needed someone by my side to be okay. I've recently grown out of this, but I completely understand why some don't give themselves time to be alone.

Answer 5

I think its all about how a person was raised. My dad is the same way, he cant be alone... and I myself have been accused of it too. For me tho, its not about having companionship, its that when Im single, I go out and have a good time and date around and some guy always caught my eye. So It was never that I wanted to be in a relationship at all times, it was that I was truly interested in someone else. Hope I help.

Answer 6

Some people just hate the thought of being alone. and they always need someone. Misery loves company

Answer 7

they are called dogs

Answer 8

hes a jerk!