I have a guy friend that I talk often over the phone. He lives about 4 hours away for me. We have been friends for a while now. Um we have talked about being in a relationship before, but he pulled away so I left it alone, he made excuses For a while he stop calling for a month and I found out that he was in a relationship for a month with a girl that broke his heart again and put everything before him. I really like him and he even told me that he loved me, but I know a relationship would not work because he is to wishy washy so I dont care about that part. This is embrassing to admit this but, he calls me like 2 in the morning to talk to me at times, and then we have phone sex, its so weird but i enjoy it tho, but why is it that he always calls me for comfort, not only sexually but mentally as if I can take away his stress or something.. I do wish he was my boyfriend but I gave u on it. Im a virgin and I wanna have sex. should I go for it, im 21 years old, and he turns me on.
2007-03-07 05:37:21 · 13 answers · asked by Merie h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he moves 2 where you live you can have a relationship
with him or vice versa. But if neither of you move the
relationship would never work.(that's how it is with long
distance relationships).
2007-03-07 05:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that you don't want to get involved with this guy cause he is wishy washy and wouldn't be able to handle it. Sounds like you two are using each other which isn't good with the phone sex and stuff. He doesn't want to be involved with you and you don't want him. Don't do it. Someone will get hurt.
Being that you haven't been with a guy before you shouldn't go rushing to have sex with a guy that you don't want to be with. First time should be special with someone you love and loves you back. Someone that you are in a relationship with. It is your first time and should be special. You would NEVER be able to get that back again. I was 30 til I first had sex. There is no age limit that you have to have had sex by so don't rush it hun. Wait.
2007-03-07 05:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it sounds like you are his familiar comfort zone. he knows that you like him, and when he is down he always reverts back to that. i really dont see a relationship happening or working, for the same thing you pointed out. he is wishy washy about it with you.
as far as sex goes, go for it, but be aware it may ruin your friendship with him. good luck
2007-03-07 05:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by midnyghtcloud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 12:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Nurses. You are his mama. Hold his hand, pat him on the back, run your hands through his hair, and tell him everything is going to be ok. But dont have sex with him. I think that would be a mistake.
2007-03-07 05:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by ragbagz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you realize that if he taps you, that your feelings for him will go sky high while his feelings wont progress so much. to a point my dear he is using you for just like you said. all the satisfaction and such. is there a chance of you moving to where he is or vice versa? probably not. so i know you adore him, but honestly realize that it might now work out.
2007-03-07 06:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by brianju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't do it. He only wants the convenient of your comfort,
not a relationship with you. I get the feeling he will come to you
only when his heart's broken, but will leave you when he
has recovered. you deserve someone who willing to
share happiness with you, not using you just to feel better then
leave you.
2007-03-07 06:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by a_fish_with_no_name 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You talk about how he uses you, but not how he gives in return. If you two do get together, you will end up being his second mama.
2007-03-07 05:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm no thats not good trust me wait till your married and find someone that doesnt use you like this guy does
2007-03-07 05:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't do it if i were you because it sounds like you would end up getting emotionally attached. and do you really want your first to be a booty call?
2007-03-07 05:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋