If she didn't like these things , she should not have gotten together with him in the first place. Right ?
2007-03-07 05:34:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's the old saying like you said. "Women marry us to change us; we marry them hoping they stay the same." I think marriages would work out better if we change our train of thought the opposite direction. And yes BLAME the media and whatnot with the unattainable expectations.
2007-03-07 05:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a very good point. I learned a long time ago that it is virtually impossible to change a man, unless of course he really wants to change. I think what happens is that when a woman first meets/starts to date a man, in the excitement of a new relationship, she either overlooks alot of things, or thinks that she can change him later on down the road. Then as soon as she starts to get comfortable with the man/relationship, all the things that she overlooked in the beginning start to get on her nerves, and that is when she tries to change the man. My husband accepts me the way I am, and I accept him the way he is. Sometimes he makes me crazy because when he comes home from work, he never puts his keys, wallet, cell phone, etc. in the same place twice, so when he gets ready to leave for work the next morning, he is always looking for these things. But, I figure if that's the worst of his faults, then I don't have much to complain about. Plus, I know I do things that make him crazy as well, but he rarely complains. Hopefully, you can find a woman that will accept you the way you are and not try and change you. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-07 13:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the tendancy is sociologically pronounced to to the way we train women to be. Lets begin with their playing with dolls at a young age... already they are being taught how to pair up Ken and Barbie, dressing them the way they want them to be dressed, making them act through scripts of their own creation, etc. Now normally roleplaying is a useful way to develop social skills, but when girls play with the dolls by themselves, they are their own entertainment and it could lead to a feeling that in similar situations to their script they are supposed to act as a puppet master.
Consider also the nurturing aspect of femininity wherein the mother raises a child... she is their primary teacher, dresser, feeder, bather, entertainment, etc... In many senses, when women date men, they unknowingly fall upon their maternal instincts and do things which would be far less acceptable in a relationship of equals... randomly fixing your hair for instance, or nagging you about playing too many video games.
You need to set limit with these types of women and point out how demeaning it is to you when they treat you like this. Don't let them walk over you and they flat out can't... only YOU can empower them to change you.
2007-03-07 13:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by DarkLord_Bob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly! You start a relationship with someone because you care about them. If you are care about them, you don't want to change them, you accept them for who they are. If they want to change so much about you, you know they really didn't accept you for you in the first place.
2007-03-07 13:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe she saw a future or special qualites / potential in you, not other guys... so. MMM? we just do, i usually go into a relationship with things i don't like, and i might tell them, but i also tell them i love them for who they are, and i will never try to change them so.... Good luck with that
If you could answer my last question much appreciated!
2007-03-07 13:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have brought up something that is often true. I have not done nearly enough reading on this, but my opinion is that the condition can not be cured.
2007-03-07 13:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by The man in the back 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah, the age old question. Woman just think that they can mold us, tweak us, that' swhy, b/c they think they can. And yes, if she can not accept some of our faults then she needs to move on.
2007-03-07 13:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ken R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all woman do.
I dont i like the guy 4 the way he is.
2007-03-07 13:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Livin by each second 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously liked something about him so much that she thought it would be worth her while to change the crap about him that she doesn't like.
2007-03-07 13:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by Smurfette 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's all about the challenge
2007-03-07 13:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋