she is one of my greatest friends but she likes this guy lets call him "Alex" and my friends name will be "Carly" . She is like in love with him, he knows and one time she asked him out and he said no i thought she would stop with the "i love alex" thing but no! she kept insisting that i ask him out again or forge a note making it look like she wrote it and giving it to him b/c she thinks he's shy and will only tell her if he likes her! idk what to do and idk how to tell her its never gonna happen w/out hurting her feelings HELP!
2007-03-07 05:20:21 · 11 answers · asked by Christa...is Awesome =]] lol 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, tell her to do her own dirty work.
Second, tell him to do his own dirty work.
If either of them tell you to relay another message, be it letter form or word of mouth, tell them they have hands and feet (assuming they do) and they can do it themselves.
Hope this helped ya! ♥
2007-03-07 05:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well Carly sounds very determined but if this person she likes doesn't like her normally i would say to just tell her so but this case sounds different I have afeeling that no matter what you tell her she is very determined and going to keep trying togettyhis person to go out with herso my advice would be even though it might hurt her feelings a litle you should have him tell her that he doesn't like her. If you can't make this happen I would suggest that youconvince one of his friends to tell her this. Your friend sounds like a nice person who just has a crush on the wrong guy maybe you could talk to someone elsethat would ask her out or suggest to her other guys she might like. I hope this advice helps and if not just have the two of them talk if possible have a nice Day!
2007-03-07 05:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If theres anything Ive learned about friends its that you really cant tell them anything, they wont take your advice once theyve already made up their minds. As much as you can see wrong and stupid flashing all over her ideas with flashing neon lights, she cant see it, all she sees is the image in her mind of this guy being perfect and any possible explanation to make it work in her sense of reality. Just let her make her own mistakes, eventually she'll realize what she was like and she'll feel embarrassed enough. Sometimes different people need to learn different lessons in different ways.
2007-03-07 05:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by radiancia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She Needs Help!
feelings are not to be hurt by anyone but we do it,and it hurts and we allow it ,know matter how much it hurts ,i say
Tell her "GET A GRIP"your someone who cares and you are a true friend,only a real friend can tell her the truth and I just wish and hope as a friend help her to get help,and go with her for support,"Obsession Kills"
obsession is an illness and it can get worse ,it can lead into hurting someone,really badly she just needs to take time out to get to know herself and let this phase in her life GO...as her friend she is going to really need you.
and seek some help to go on with her life and enjoy other things and other people out there just waiting to be met and to be come friend s and then some...GOOD LUCK MY DEARS.
2007-03-07 05:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by char 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what type of person your friend is but obviously she is determined! I don't think it is neccessarily your place to tell her it'll never happen but you can always voice your opinion. Sometimes persistance pays off and maybe your friend really likes this guy...unless she knows he doens't like her then she can never be sure it won't happen. Put yourself in her shoes. Imagine finding the guy of your dreams. Would you be discouraged because a friend says it won't ever happen?
2007-03-07 05:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't make someone like another person. And it isn't your job to try. Everyone has to deal with disappointment in their lives at some point or another. Don't DO anything - it isn't your job. I don't think that telling her it isn't going to happen is going to make a difference. She will have to find out for herself.
2007-03-07 05:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by CaptDare 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send her this url
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqRws.nrFrvP7GWmiwtF.uDD7BR.?qid=20070307102021AAC8Sgm
Or just be honest and tell her she needs to move on and that you don't wanna write a note or ask him out for her because you are a good friend.
2007-03-07 05:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Interested 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell her the truth...that it doesn't look like he is interested in her and that she needs to get over it and move on....plenty of fish in the sea!
2007-03-07 05:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
here's a thought... mind your own business! if she likes him, let her be. maybe she's an idiot and has to learn the hard way, or maybe you don't know as much about them as you think you do. either way, there isn't anything YOU can do. let it go.
2007-03-07 05:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
i think u should ask him if he likes her and if not then just tell her. if she can't then she should get over him.
2007-03-07 05:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋