She's an awesome girl with a great personality. We've been seeing each other for a few weeks now. Anyway, a couple of days ago she revealed that she has a boyfriend, but now she likes me more than him.
I feel like a JACK-DONKEY.
Is a girl who does something like this good or bad news? Granted her boyfriend isn't the best guy in the world, I've met him (which totally wasn't awkward or anything), he's pretty annoying but seems like a nice guy.
I guess I feel like a heel for inadvertently doing this to another guy...
2007-03-07 05:14:40 · 34 answers · asked by Tye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reading all these responses, yeah, I am concerned that she would do the same thing to me.
However, that's not the main reason I'm calling things off (yes, I'm backing off completely, the situation just isn't right) is that I don't want to be "that guy." Frankly, I've felt bad since I found out because I know it's not right, I don't see how a guy could actually go through with this.
Eh, maybe all I needed was to let this out.
It can really suck having a conscience.
2007-03-07 05:45:51 · update #1
Bad-News!
If she did it to him, she'll do it to you!
She's comfortable living a lie, so she's not gonna stop anytime soon.
You shouldn't feel bad since you didn't know about it. But I do think (personal opinion) that you should leave her alone. Even though you didn't know, she knew, and she still did what she did.
Hope this helped and hope all turns out well! ♥
2007-03-07 05:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's definitely bad news! Get out while you can. Regardless of the fact that "her boyfriend isn't the best guy in the world", no one deserves to be cheated on. If she really liked you more than him- she should have been woman enough to tell him. She obviously is not that much of a woman if she just told you about him and has been CHEATING on her boyfriend for a couple of weeks. Even if she's a great girl- would you really trust her, if she dumped her boyfriend and your relationship with her got serious? Probably not! Don't waste your time- there are plenty of great girls/ women out there. Good Luck and I hope you do the right thing for yourself!
2007-03-07 05:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say bad news. One, she lied to you by not telling you she already HAD a boyfriend. Two, she's been playing the two of you for a while, and Three, she just so "happened" to fall in love with you! So what does that say to you?? She obviously started dating you "just because" and that does not say much about a person, man or woman! It's dishonest! Regardless of the other guy being annoying, bad person, or best person in the world, it's all about how she treats YOU!!! And obviously, she's already lied! I am a true believer in second chances, so if you think she's so special she deserves a second chance, then go for it, but it better be the "vie on rose" from there on, NO THIRD CHANCES!
2007-03-07 05:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by prttychk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think - If she's doing this to her boyfriend now, what makes you think she wont do it to you.
Shes a cheater. Shes cheating on her boyfriend now cause she likes you better (maybe) so when (if) you guys get together, whats to say she doesnt decide that shes bored with you but instead of telling you, decides to drag you along and get with some other guy.
I suggest you stay away. But i guess make your own decisions, follow your heart. But be prepared in case something happens. Good luck though!
2007-03-07 05:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bad news.
She should be woman enough to tell her bfriend how she feels or breakup with him.
What makes you think that she won't get tired of you sooner or later and do the EXACT same thing to you that she is doing to him.
Not to mention I would feel uneasy with her, because she basically lied to you, by not telling you she has a boyfriend. What else has she lied about or "not told you?".
There can never be any trust in a relationship based on a lie, because that is exactly what it is: a lie.
2007-03-07 05:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal Rene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is just being blunt, what you need know is the level of her commitment to the guy and her genuineness, if she is sincere, i think you could give her a chance, but the problem again is that youve met the boy friend,this might make you feel as if you have commited a crime,if you have conscience.it is a little bit complicated but give it sometime and things would shape up.
2007-03-07 05:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by oluwatobi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you two can`t see each other if she`s going to continue to use this other boy. If she really likes you as much as she claims she does, she won`t have a problem breaking it off with the other boy.
She doesn`t really seem like a bad girl, but all girls like to have more than one boyfriend at once. It`s just nature to keep up mystery.
2007-03-07 05:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can be good and bad!!
what you feel about her Bf is not that important, she has to feel comfortable with her Bf which seems she is not.
If you find her Bf a nice guy so it simply can mean that she finds you more attractive, and for that you must be proud.
but her feelings might be temporary, if you think you like her personality try to find it out and as well try to make you relationship stronger, but in the way that you feel comfortable yourself as well.try to understand her reasons and be logical, every body has the right to choose, so choose carefully and be sure that you are chosen.
2007-03-07 05:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Shahram N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think to yourself what is going to be in the back of your mind when you two are having problems if you guys ever become bf and gf one day. Exactly, you are always going to be suspicious she's gonna do the same to you. I'm not saying she is bad news, but she isn't the one you're going to want to be seious with. What makes it even worse is that she had the nerve to introduce you to her beau.
2007-03-07 05:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i may be only going on 13, but i don't think that it's your fault that "your girl" (if you want to call her that) is cheating on her boyfriend. if she wants you, then she should break up with her current boyfriend. she is NOT being fair to her bf or you. and who knows? maybe when u two are going steady, she will do the same thing to you with a new guy. whatever happens, remember: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! good luck! <3, sylvia ;})
2007-03-07 05:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋