My Boyfriend has quick Orgasms.?

Question

We have only had sex 4 times. The last time he came in less than a minute. He was embarrased and telling me that this doesn't usually happen to him. The next night, he did not want to have sex with me. My Questions are:

What is the cause of this?
Do you think he didn't want to have sex because of his problem?

Answer 1

That's the warning shot. Men are capable of getting another erection within 10-15 minutes when properly motivated. Take this time to cuddle him and play with him lovingly until its up and ready again and ride him like a cowgirl. The next go should last a bit long... and if not, just keep repeating, as each subsequent orgasm will take longer and longer. By the time he's shooting blanks, he'll be shagging you raw frantically for an hour or more just to trigger that little reflexive orgasm muscle and pass out on the floor, exhausted.

Women don't realize that men ARE capable of multiple orgasms... just not all at once. Expecting the first go to last for hours and hours is ridiculous though. Let him get rid of the first few rounds.. THEN ride him raw.

So don't tell him not to blast off quickly... just make sure he he KEEPS blasting and eventually you'll get the longshots you're hoping for.

Answer 2

well maybe it was his first time or he hasnt had sex for a while. I read in mens health is to last long you have to practice. What im trying to say is if he feels like coming tell him to stop so the urge can go away and it well train your body to last longer you can apply this to other things if you catch my point. Its gonna take a while but it should work.

Answer 3

premature ejaculation is what it is called. you should read up on it. it does happen from time to time with younger men~ he is feeling embarrasse thatis why he does not want to have sex so he is afraid. just make him feel comfortable and not insecure about this because it happens a lot like i said. just be loving and understanding toward him and he won't be so nervous next time~ hope this helps.

Answer 4

there could be variety of causes for this..research some on .www.webMD.com..

yes he didnt wanna have sex cuz of this problem...so in anticipation, make sure u do all u can to make him feel like "the man" and feel real comfortable with you

Answer 5

You must check out Jack Grave's "Ejaculation Guru" tutorial on how to stop premature ejaculation, check out his video here: http://www.ejaculationguru.tv

It explains how to end premature ejaculation for good. It’s basically a blueprint on how to develop natural control over your ejaculation. It actually reprograms your ejaculatory reflex so that you last longer without even trying.

It involves a combination of techniques, learning knowledge, and following a specific approach that attacks premature ejaculation from all three angles; the physical, mental, and hormonal. I was able to cure my premature ejaculation problem in only 2 weeks and I never had a problem again.

Answer 6

he is a premature ejaculator and there are treatments for this. he should see a urologist and use a sensation deadening cream.

Depending on severity, premature ejaculation symptoms can be significantly reduced. In mundane cases, treatments are focused on gradually training and improving mental habituation to sex and physical development of stimulation control. In clinical cases, various medications are being trialled to help slow down the speed of the arousal response.

SSRI antidepressants have been shown to delay ejaculation in men treated for different psychiatry disorders. SSRIs are considered the most effective treatment currently available for PE. These include paroxetine, fluoxetine, sertraline and more. The use of these drugs, that require chronic therapy is limited by the neuropsychiatric side effects. New SSRI drugs specifically targeted to treat premature ejaculation (e.g. dapoxetine) can be taken on an as needed basis and have been recently shown positive results in large phase III studies. Nevertheless dapoxetine is not yet approved by any regulatory authority around the world. There is speculation that some of the associated effects are caused by lowered libido and blood pressure as well as lowered anxiety levels. Other pharmaceutical products known to delay male orgasm are; opioids, cocaine, and diphenhydramine.

Local anesthetic creams (like lidocaine, prilocaine and combinations) have shown to be very effective in clinical trials and are being used of the treatment of PE. Their use is limited by its own anesthetic effect that reduce sensation on the penis and female vagina.

Most sex therapists prescribe a series of exercises to enable the man to gain ejaculatory control. While the exercises are intended for men who suffer from premature ejaculation, other men can use the exercises to enhance their sex lives. By far the most common exercise is the so-called start-stop technique. While the technique varies, the purpose is to get the male accustomed to maintaining an erection for an extended period of time while gradually increasing sexual tolerance. In doing this exercise, the male obtains an erection through self-stimulation, or masturbation. After achieving an erection, he stops stimulating himself until he begins to lose his erection; at that point, he begins to stimulate himself again. Gradually, over a period of several weeks, he is able to stimulate himself for longer periods of time, eventually gaining ejaculatory control. In order for this technique to be successful, the male should avoid feeling discouraged if he ejaculates rapidly; instead, he should use his sexual responses to learn how to vary the technique in a way that most benefits him. The male can choose to integrate his partner into these exercises.

The male's partner is usually integrated into the exercises. They can stimulate the partner using the stop-start technique. When the male has achieved some level of ejaculatory control, he can insert his penis into his partner without thrusting. After his penis becomes accustomed to being inside his partner, thrusting can be gradually included, according to the male's abilities, using the stop-start technique. In less severe cases, the male might overcome his premature ejaculation early on, making exercises with his partner superfluous.

The male's partner plays an essential role in enabling him to overcome premature ejaculation. Without understanding and emotional support, the male is unlikely to obtain the level of relaxation required for sexual satisfaction. Both the male and his partner should communicate their feelings openly and with sensitivity. The male should learn to sexually satisfy his partner, orally or otherwise, while they work with him to overcome his premature ejaculation.

External latex rigid sheathes fastened to the body have been developed that cover all part of the penis during penetration so that the penis is protected from all the stimulation of the vagina. these help to gain control and to provide satisfaction to the partner.

Answer 7

i think it is because of that problem if i had that problem i wouldn't want to do it again because i would get too embarassed

Answer 8

He may have been to excited.
Yes he's embarassed by this problem and doesn't watn you to get upset.

Answer 9

Put an Ugly Mask on, that will hold him off for a while.