from my previous question i 've just posted, my gf broke with me over religion. i think i should just let her go but i just simply love her too deeply. why can't christian and non-christian be together? it's like racism. just because of a particular verse in bible saying that, doesn't mean christian must follow? if the non-christian doesn't damage the christian's relationship with god, then i think they can be together! but that's not what my gf thought so. all she wanted was not to disobey god, so she sacrifice me just not to disobey HIM. i am also willing to accept god. anyway it's just praying, there isn't any harm though. but i thought love holds no boundaries. is it right for her to give up love because she doesn't wan to disobey god? should i move on or try to persuade her to change her decision?
2007-03-07 05:03:36 · 13 answers · asked by Peter 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
so should i try my best to persuade her to change her decision? she is very firm on her decision. if she truly loves me, will she do this kinda thing to me?
2007-03-07 05:11:27 · update #1
when i asked her why can't she just ignore the bible and be with non-believer for the sake of true love? then she replied me that she also couldn't understand why i can't accept god's love and open up to him like how i coudn't understand the reason she chose that path..
2007-03-07 05:24:35 · update #2
her love for god is stronger than the love she had for me. so i'm in a dilemma whether to move on or not. if i compromise her and become a christian, then our relationship is all bceause of love for god not love for each other right?
2007-03-07 05:34:58 · update #3
Being a Christian myself, I don't think that it is wrong for a Christian to be with a non-Christian, but I think that it may not be the ideal situation for either person. Your gf will want someone who can encourage her in her walk with God. Someone to pray with, to talk about her faith and beliefs with. I am married and I can't imagine if my husband and I didn't have the same beliefs. It effects so many things in our lives. Our finances, for example. What will we prioritize in our finances? Tithing, for one, is very important to both of us. How do we deal with situations? We pray about it... together.
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that some people may be ok not having these things in a relationship, but for a lot of people, these things are important. I don't think that your gf will be disobeying God by being with you, but it may not be the best relationship for either of you.
You said that you were willing to accept God. Maybe you should try to figure out if that is something that you want in your life. It's probably a priority in your gf's life. Is it something you want as a priority in yours?
Wish you the best.
2007-03-07 05:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jmac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think that religion should matter in a relationship, but unfortunately it does at times. I've been in a similar situation and it was either I believed what they did, or we broke up....well we ended up getting divorced for that reason.
I'm not willing to compromise who I am for anyone else. Yeah I could have just said that I believed for the sake of the relationship, but that would have been a lie and I wouldn't have been able to live my life like that. Especially since he knew from the very beginning where I stood on the topic of religion.
So I guess the question you should be asking yourself is if you're willing to compromise who you are and how you truly feel about religion and your beliefs. If you don't truly believe what she does then you would be living a lie...and she will catch onto it eventually and that would just cause this whole thing all over again later.
2007-03-07 05:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by photogrl262000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bible, in all of it's hypocritical wisdom, says that christians shouldn't associate with those who don't share the same beliefs. So much for the love your fellow man stuff huh? Unfortunately, it sounds like she is using her faith as an excuse. Let her go. I know it hurts, but if you let her go and she stays away from you, was she worth it in the first place. Respect her beliefs, if it is true. As a non believer, the best way to handle it is to respect her beliefs, it shows you are the better person. I'm pagan, my ex husband is christian. I don't push anything on my children. If they want to practice christianity, that is their choice. I will respect them for their decision. Be the better person in this case and let her be. You don't need the negative crap she is dishing out to you.
2007-03-07 05:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by firey_cowgirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The Bible says that a Christian/non-christian relationship is unequally yoked. Such relationships are doomed to failure. If there is not agreement on the part of both parties to be equally yoked in Christianity, then both of you are better off staying separate. It is quite obviously that she feels very strongly about this issue. No amount of convincing will change her mind. Believe it or not God is more important to a person than another human being. Jesus saves. there is nothing you can do to save another person. Everybody is answerable to God for their conduct in their lifetime and how they spent their time and with whom. This may seem selfish to you, but she is just obeying God, which is what God wants. God is a jealous God in that he is not willing to share his children with any outsider. He demands loyalty----complete loyalty.
2007-03-07 05:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
love is Gods gift and he wants it to work.you should be able to be together,but there has to be understanding and acceptance by both of you.if there is stubbornness without compromise it wont work.pledge your love and see what happens,but dont just be someone you dont feel you can be in your heart.keep praying and see if he gives you the answers
2007-03-07 05:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by woodsonhannon53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Persuade her. The Bible says that it is not recommended that you marry a non-believer, but it is not exactly forbidden either. Paul said that in marrying a non-believer, you might help them TO believe.
2007-03-07 05:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by EMO KID =( 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents are happy and have been married 35 years. One's Jewish, the other is Methodist. They were mature enough to realize that they loved each other enough to respect each other's beliefs. We grew up lighting the menorah and singing christmas carols. it was wonderful to be brought up in an all inclusive household and it teaches the children to be more tolerant of other people's beliefs. maybe she's just not that mature. if she doesn't love you in spite of your beliefs, maybe she just didn't love you, really. find someone who does.
2007-03-07 05:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by elfkin, attention whore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is obsessed with only being allowed to see God a certain way. I agree with you, but there's a good chance she'll never come around. I'm so sorry.
2007-03-07 05:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
christian and non-christians can be together and are together. It takes two mature people to be together. Religion shouldnt matter just like race...etc
2007-03-07 05:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by deathfromace 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like love to me.
2007-03-07 05:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by Magus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋