If you been in alot of bad relationships should you just stop dating?

Question

I been hurt by so many times in the pass by different people and i feel like i just won't fall in love, so should i just give up love? Why? Why not?

Answer 1

You are completely normal feeling this way. I've been there too! I think pretty much everyone feels this way at one time or another. There are alot of people out there who just aren't ready for real relationships and they seem to be the people who we end up dating. Keep going, it will happen eventually. Although they say when you aren't looking is when it happens? I've tried both ways....I'm still looking....lol. I am not giving up though....I know there is someone who will want me for me. Good luck!

Answer 2

This is a two part answer. Part one, Not every one is the same so if one person hurts you it does not mean the next person you date is going to. Also do not put what the last person did wrong on the new person you are trying to date because you will doom it from the start. Part two, If you are consistently getting hurt step back and regroup for a month or two then get back in the game. When looking for a new person to date take some time and look in places that you have not looked before. Try meeting people in a coffee shop for a example. The main thing is to change the game up every so often. Try and try again there is a match for every one it's just how hard are you willing to work for it. If you give up on love it is like giving up on life. You do not want to be that old cat lady or nasty old man.

Answer 3

I don't think you should stop dating. I felt the same way after my last relationship ended a few years ago; I found it to be EXTREMELY difficult to put my trust in anyone for a while after that happened- but then I met someone who gave me a reason to trust again- and so will you. (I'm engaged now, after two and a half years of dating a wonderful man, so there is hope! :) Don't give up on love- and don't get jaded by a few bad eggs, because there are plenty of trustworthy, sweet, loving guys out there- you just have to be patient. In the meantime, don't just sit around waiting for love to come to you- get involved with things you're interested in, discover new hobbies, volunteer, etc., and that will not only maybe make you a happier person, it might also make you more likely to find the right guy during the journey. After all, they say that love comes when you're least expecting it, right? That was definitely true in my case. You're more likely to 'accidentally' find a good guy when you're active and busy enjoying YOU and YOUR interests- that is an extremely attractive quality, and the right guy will appreciate that you love yourself and are exploring who you are as a person.
Good luck! :)

Answer 4

You shouldn't give up on love, but it might be healthy for you to take a break from the dating. Think about what similarities there were in your past relationships. Doing so will allow you to see in a less emotion-driven setting what it is that causes them to be "bad". You will then be able to steer yourself towards individuals who don't have those particular traits. In the meantime, get out and do something! Join a bowling team, take a writing class, learn to surf...that way you aren't isolating yourself, and when you're ready to enter the dating world again, you'll most likely have met some good candidates. :)

Answer 5

No.
Love is too great to give up.

I suggest that you think about the past relationships. What went wrong? What qualities in these women did you like? What did you not like? Figure out what worked and what didn't. Then when you get to know someone new, you can kinda compare the situations. Is she self centered? Does she have personal habits that bother you? Does she have issues with her family? Is she jealous?

Before you put your heart out there, see if it's someplace you want it to be. Guard your heart. I know it's hard, but you will find someone to love and who will love you back.

Use those past relationships as learning experiences.

Answer 6

I don't think you should give up, but I do think you should put your efforts elsewhere for a time. It seems that "love" happens when we aren't looking for it. When we aren't spending so much negative energy trying to figure out "what went wrong". Just move on with life, join the gym, a book club or become a soccer mom - do activities that will enlighten you, make you feel better about yourself and trust me, just like that, you'll find who you were looking for but was missing because you were too busy looking. Make sense?

Answer 7

I don't think you should stop dating but maybe you should try to figure out why you keep making the same mistakes..... Why are you choosing the wrong person for you? Are you going for looks and not substance or are you picking out a personality trait that you like (maybe a more wild person?) that ultimately ends up hurting you with that personality trait???? Did that even make sense? lol What did all those people that hurt you have in common?

Answer 8

Never give up! I was in too many to count bad, no horrible, relationships. But if i would have given up after these, i never would have found my boyfriend i have now. We live together now and he is the most amazing thing!

Dont give up, but take some time off, dont look for a guy. Hang out with your girlfriends and have fun. He'll show up when you lease expect it! :)

Answer 9

believe ive been there. and am there right now. but giving up isnt the answers. ive had no relationships and im 17. all ive had is guys who wont commit. who hurt me. and break my heart. but im not giving up. my soulmate is out there somewhere. and so is yours. you can only learn from your mistakes, and thrive from them. dont give up on true love. its the only pure thing left in this world. everyone deserves someone to call their own. to be with them through thick and thin. to trust. and care for. keep hanging on. good things come to those who wait.

you never know. your wonderful person could be right around the corner.

good luck

Answer 10

i feel ur pain, i have been through what you went through myself but you shouldnt give up on love, just take a rest, relax just think of yourself right now. I f you got out a bad relationship dont be quick to jump into a new one, just take it slow. Take time out to hang with friends dont think of it too much. That is what i did and love came to me when i least expect it. DONT CHASE LOVE, LET IT CHASE U.