2007-03-07 04:54:48 · 14 answers · asked by ~*Brandi Riggs*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is nothing you can do and the more you try, likely the more intense her sense of competition to try to "win" him back will be.
If she contacts you remind her that her issues are with him, not you and she needs to discuss them with him.
It is up to HIM to make it clear to her that although she is the mother of his child and they have to have a good working relationship for the child's sake, that is the extent of their relationship now. He needs to reitterate that it didn't work out between the two of them and he has now chosen to be with you, but that wishes the best for her in finding someone who will love her in the way she deserves to be loved and who will be a good role model for the child.
2007-03-07 05:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly that's not your job. Your fiance' is the one that needs to have a serious talk with her to make her understand his current situation. He needs to tell her that they will always be connected because of their child but that's where it ends. There will never be a future for them because he chooses to make one with you. He need to do this fast so that she will not interfere in your relationship. You telling her- is only going to create more problems with your fiance' and worse yet between them and their child. I hope everything works out for you! Good Luck
2007-03-07 05:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all DO NOT marry a man who has a child already with another woman whom he has abandoned. The same could happen to YOU and any potential child you may have with this dirtbag. Move on, find a good guy with no strings attached and no children he has created so carelessly and thoughtlessly. You deserve a better guy that that!
2007-03-07 04:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kay 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Is your fiance letting her know he does not want to be with her? you may think he is in front of you but you don't know what is going on when you are not there. As a man, it is his responsibility to alleviate that drama and if he doesn't and/or won't......I don't think you should marry him
2007-03-07 06:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by sjlova86 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can really do anything. It is your fiance's responcibility to deal with that, not yours. I would just get married to your fiance and not worry about it, she will eventually accept it or just have to deal with it. Just remember that the chil dshould not to be used as manipulation by him or her.
2007-03-07 05:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he'll be boinking her on the side (and creating thousands of illegit kids by other women too) - so try to get to know and like her. If you're both determined to be baby machines for this stud, why get cross with each other?
2007-03-07 05:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
it's gonna get more complicate if this words would directly come from you, cause you are so out of that problem, that problem is between your b/f and her ex, your b/f should be the one minding this things and setting the record straight between their relationship... It's like this, no matter what you say to her ex, you think she would listen??? (don't think so!), so, all you can do is to encourage your b/f to speak up and set the record straight between him and his ex... Just be supportive and things will soon be ok...
2007-03-07 05:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with "kay". dont marry someone with kids unless you have some yourself. hell probably do the sam to you. i know thats harsh, but just look at statistics. i personally would never marry someone who had kids unless i had some as well. too much drama!
2007-03-07 05:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u dont have make her realize anything..just 4get about her and live ur life w.ur fiance.4get about her .
2007-03-07 04:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Just_Me 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with Kay's comments.. You should not leave him, but you do not have tell her anything. He should tell her, that its about you and him, and yes you understand they have a child together, and you will respect that.
2007-03-07 05:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by questions 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋