Think of this as a story. Maybe even as further as a novel. And yes, mature answers preferred!
Imagine you were a man who fell in love with a model who loved you and cared about you. Besides that, you also had the best sex of your life. But because you two came from extremely different backgrounds (she made more money, had a college education, etc.) and because she supposedly was going further in life, you felt like you didn't have much to give her. And because of this, you broke up with her and seriously broke her heart. And even though you broke up with her, you were still very much obsessed with her, even "bumping" into her in places where she went. And then, eventually, you find out that you had gotten her pregnant while you were still together and that she had a miscarriage. What and how would you feel?
2007-03-07 04:51:23 · 13 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a male and I would feel loser.. because I didn't support my girlfriend... but you know...I been married to my wife for almost 10 years in oct 07 and we have 2 kids 3 and 2 and soon 3rd due in march.. I have worked 2 jobs to support my wife even she got Student Loan and we owe 40,000 ... she already have BS and MS and going for PHD that will be next five years from now..
Ok she make right now 65,000 a year and I made 28,880 a year... Didn't bother her or me... we have money to have a better life that we ever had.. and Agreement that who ever go to college need to finsihed first.. I want my wife go for it first... so I work really hard to make this happen yes we did have plm I not giving her attion or being there for her or made her feel love...
We work very hard to make this happen... and She said she is pregnant first child she 9 month by the time she got your BS and again son she was 9 months by the time she got her MS... Now 3rd child no college yet but after child born and we move back to sacrametno and live there five years after that move to Washington state where she can go for PHD and she told me that I still have to work from five years now and going to washington state and I agree with her smiling.. I had no plm with that... But you know Everything I do becasue I do love her and my kids and I do anything to support and knowing that later when she had phd then I can go to college and I made that promise to my wife... and agree.
So your point about still gethere and you miscarriage and How would I feel??? I feel bad hurt. same time my woman way painful feeling that she miscarrage.. or if she happy whew... depend how you feel about miscarriage??? so hope this helps????
p.s. if he didn't want to make better life better career then he no tthe man you should be married. compare to me and him you would pick me... because I work really hard to support my family and my wfie no matter what out comes... It didn't bother me if she made 65,000 a year... knowing that I will be going to college soon smiling looking forward to it.
2007-03-07 05:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I would not feel insecure just because I made less money. There are a lot of other things that you bring to a relationship that can't be estimated in dollars. Like supporting the person, being there for her and taking care of her. Making sure that you let her see why she fell in love with you every day.
2. If she had a miscarriage, I'd want to share the sorrow with her. Because that's what responsible adults do.
2007-03-07 12:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to answer this because everyone is different.
Feelings & thoughts about a situation such as this actually do not develop right away, usually takes a few days for the gravity of the situation to sink in. Think about it, usually how you first react to a situation is never the same feeling you have a week or two later after having time to process it. But again, depends on the type of person he is.
2007-03-07 12:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by BrokenOpalAngel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not many guys can say they bagged a model.. For some reason.. maybe because I always look @ most women as pure evil.. I'm thinking the miscarriage thing.. Is just a made up story to make him feel bad. And since your a model you like attention and that was a way to get it from him... Since he made you feel rejected. Not trying to be mean.. Just real
2007-03-07 13:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by dralls4lyf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would feel regret, regret for thinking I had nothing to offer...love is worth more than job, status or money...that is the most precious thing a person can give. Mad at myself for not realizing this sooner...blaming myself for the miscarriage, thinking if only I had been ther for her, with my love, this would not have happened and she would not be alone.
2007-03-07 12:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ken R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF this was my buddy, I would have tried to convince him to stay with her in the first place...IF it was me, she would have never gotten rid of me in the first place!
The miscarraige is something he couldn't do anything about either way, so yeah, it would feel crappy. But life goes on for the two of you and it sounds like they are still young enough to find each other once again and start again. Good luck to you!
2007-03-07 12:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would feel like i was hit with a ton of bricks, but if i was in that situation i would have never left cause i am not insecure and if she loved me the way i loved her i would never hurt her. and a child would have made the relationship better.
she lost that baby due to mass amount os stress and depression from this guy. just really is not in the right mind state
2007-03-07 13:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by Michael F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the one that ended this relationship and now you are still obsessing over it?
The pregnancy/miscarriage thing is water under the bridge.
If you are still this obsessed why not try to change your situation so that you fit your own model of what kind of man she deserves.
2007-03-07 12:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like a man. I'd pick up the pieces and move on knowing I did what I did for a good reason.
2007-03-07 12:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh so terrible! I would reconsile as soon as possible, and be there for her. Also I would let her know how I felt and the reason I broke up with her.
2007-03-07 12:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋