Wedding Invitation Advice-What is the best way to include my recently deceased father's name in the invite?

Answer 1

Refer to him as the "late" Mr. Bride's Dad. If you are including him I would shy away from wording that he and your mom were extending the invitation. (i.e. I definately wouldn't say Mr. Bride's Dad and Mrs. Bride's Parents request the honor....).

I think the best way is to say:
Jane Bride
daughter of Mrs Bride's Mom and the Late Mr. Bride's Dad.
and
John Groom
son of Mr. Groom's dad and Mrs. Groom's Dad.


It may get tricky if you want to word it as your mom extending the invitation. Were they married at the time of your father's death?

if that IS how you want it I would word it as

Mrs. Bride's Mom
request yada yada yada

to the marriage of Jane Bride
also daughter of the late Mr. Bride's Dad
to
John Groom
son of ....

or you could do your mom as

Mrs. Bride's Dad
request yada yada yada

I don't think I would say
Mrs. Bride's Mom and the Late Mr. Bride's Dad
request the honor .....

unless the death was extremely recent and your dad was a part of the wedding planning before he died. Then it would be up to you and your mom.

Do what seems right and it will be just fine.

Answer 2

We struggled with this when we ordered the invitations for our wedding. Technically speaking, you really aren't supposed to put a deceased family member's name on the invitation. However, my mom felt pretty strongly about his name on there, so we compromised:

Mrs. (dad's first name) last name
requests the honor of your presence
at the marriage of..

Not exactly the same, but it got the point across, I guess.

Are you planning a special way to honor him during your ceremony, like a memorial candle or a memory table at your reception?

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how tough it will be to not have him there with you physically, but know he'll be there in spirit!

Best wishes!

Answer 3

I think that's a sweet thought. I would either use "the late" or "in memory of".

In fact if you research "Wedding Invitation Wording and Etiquette", you'll see that mentioning a deceased parent is perfectly acceptable and a tradition. That there is even a way to appropriately do it using "the late". Try taking a look at the website below. It'll be under a link on "when one parent is deceased". They'll tell you all about invitation wording. Like the appropriate greeting to family vs the one to friends. Etc.

I hope this helps you in your wedding plans. I'm sorry about your loss but congratulations on your wedding.

Answer 4

DO NOT allow people to tell you not to put your father's name on you invite! It's unfornate that he is not alive during the time that you are getting married but that doesn't mean he shouldn't be a part of it. If people say it's incorrect etiqutte to have a dead person send an invite, screw em! Use the examples listed above Put "late" in front your fathers name.

I'm sorry for you loss, but I am happy about your gain of a future husband. CONGRATS on your engagement. I wish you the best.

Answer 5

I am very sorry for your loss, but you don't include your father on the invitation as a host. The invitation is issued by the hosts of the wedding; your deceased father cannot host and cannot invite anyone anywhere.

You could, however, name yourself as host and then include your parents:
Jane Doe Smith
daughter of Mrs. John Smith and the late Mr. John Smith
and David Jones
son of Mr. and Mrs. Richard Jones
invite you to celebrate their marriage.

However, a lot of people, myself included, aren't fans of this type of wording. Your best bet would be to either list only your mother:
Mrs. John Smith
requests the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of her daughter,
Jane Smith,
to David Jones,
son of Mr. and Mrs. Richard Jones...

Or, leave off all of the parents entirely:
Jane Smith
and
David Jones
request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage...

Answer 6

Lisa , the daughter of Mrs. Name and the late Mr. Name...

It is very appropriate to include your dad's name on the invitation. I don't think it will hurt your mom, its more of an honor thing. My friend's dad died before she got married and she put his name on the invitation and they also had a section at the wedding with pictures of him and other deceased family members. It's never wrong to remember loved ones who are gone, keep their spirit alive.

Answer 7

DECEASED PARENT(S) It is not considered correct etiquette to include a deceased parent. However, many couples like to include a deceased parent in memory of their loved one(s).

Wording for a deceased parent of the bride

Violet Blue Verde
and
Albe Gooden Tuxed
together with their parents
Mrs. Ruth Rosado Verde
the late Mr. Carl Redd Verde
and
Mr. and Mrs. Alvin Lester Tuxed
request the honor of your presence
at their marriage…

Answer 8

I'm sorry about your father, but there really is no way to do this. Deceased people don't issue invitations.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Do you have step-parents?
"Mrs. So-and-So, with the blessing of the late Mr. So-and-So announces the marriage of her daughter to..."