IF YOU AND YOUR FIANCEE WERE ENGAGED AND READY TO GET MARRIED, WOULD YOU STILL DO IT EVEN IF YOUR PARETNS WERE GETTING IN YOUR WAY, TELLING YOU YOUR TOO YOUNG WAIT ANOTHER COUPLE OF YEARS, IM REALLY IN LOVE WITH MY FIANCEE, MY PARENTS LET ME GET ENGAGED TO HIM, WHY ARE THEY DELAYING MY MARRIAGE, I LOVE HIM SO MUCH, BUT MY PARENTS ARE PUTTING OBSTACLES IN FRONT OF ME, WOULD YOU DO ANYTING TO BE WITH THE ONE PERSON YOU LOVE?
2007-03-07 04:45:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES, YES, AND YES!
2007-03-07 04:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though parents are wiser and older and for the most part they do know better they don't know everything. I would ask how long have you known him and how old are you. But even still no one can answer the question of does he really love me or do you really love him except the two that are in the relationship. You need to get really analize what your partens are saying and ask why they feel you should not do this. Then listen to them take in what they have to say and think about it. Then I would politely say to them if your desion had not changed, Mom Dad I am of age and I know you are only looking out for my best interest and I love you for that, BUT I love him and he is who I choose to be with. I am sorry that you do not feel the same way I do but I have to lead my own life and make my own mistakes. You have raised me atleast put some faith into the lady you have raised to make the right choices in my life. Yes one day you may say to yourself that you was right but what if that day never comes and I am as happy as I can possibly be.
Do not let your partents run your life if you believe in your heart he is a good man and will be a good husband and father. This relationship is not you, him, his partents and your partents. Now if you are 18 and have hopes to go to college then I would say wait until you have atleast started college because you could end up pregnant and then all of your dreams are going to have to wait.
2007-03-07 13:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to you parents
and i don't mean to upset you but you've gotta ask yourself
they let you get engaged, and though they're "delaying" you, they let you get married
I'm not the 'parents know best' sort of person honestly but they obviously must know something if they're all for letting you guys get married but do think you should wait
And about actually 'doing it'. I would be alot more romantic if u waited, ur almost there anyway
take time, plan your wedding
make it something you'll never forget, SPECAIL
and if yo two really loved each other you would do anything to make sure ur together when u finally decided to tie the knot
2007-03-07 12:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question is are you too young. There is nothing wrong with waiting. If you are in love there shouldn't be a rush. I know so many people that have rushed into marriage way too young. I have others that were high school sweet hearts that enjoyed a long engagement.
You always hear of people saying " I rushed into marriage" . You never hear people saying I wish we would have been married SOONER. Just a thought.
2007-03-07 12:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by lin25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It sounds like if you are letting your parents rule your relationship then you are quite young. Is this the problem and that they were ok with you getting engaged as they never thought it would last long enough for you guys to get married but they didn't take into account how serious you are? Have a talk with your parents and see what their real issues are.
BTW the male version of this is fiancé. Fianceé is another girl...
2007-03-07 12:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your age - & his. If you're both above 18, both have jobs & are financially independent (meaning you can each pay your own way) you've addressed the issue of children, and your age diff is not to many - go for it. The age thing comes from experience (5 friends married young to older persons and ended in divorce within 5 yrs). Basically everything depends on maturity of each - no set answers. Try to address parents issues with logical answers (no shouting or pouting). U never gave his parents opinion.
2007-03-07 12:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question. What's the hurry? If you end up getting divorced and having two or three kids because you discover later that he's grown up in a different direction than you.
If you waited two or three years while still in love with him and he with you. Nothing but greater good can come from it.
Why not just live together first and not have kids, then get to know him better, then get married in three years or so.
2007-03-07 12:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you want. You can't let your parents decide your too young if you really feel that you are ready. And yes I would do ANYTHING for the person I love...
2007-03-07 12:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 18 your parents are trying to protect you, because they think you are too young and afraid of you getting your heart broken. However if you are an adult go for it, tell them you can make your own choices and mistakes that s what being a young adult is about. good luck.
2007-03-07 12:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy Mae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny story, when you are young you think you know everything.......Only to find out later that you do NOT. Listen to your parents, what difference does it make if you marry him today or 2 years from today, you intend to be together the rest of your life right????? THINK ABOUT IT!!
2007-03-07 12:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Rhonda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family dynamics are all different everywhere. while mine pushed me into joining the military right out of high school...i figured they wouldnt need me to worry over who and when i chose to marry.
they of course had advice...but in the end it was my decision, not theirs. if youre relying on your parents to keep a roof over your head and food in your belly...then they surely want your future husband to be able to take over where they leave off. ?? what is the delay in your case? at this point in my life...i would do anything that's possible, legally and morally correct for me and my situation. peace
2007-03-07 12:53:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋